{"id":263555,"date":"2023-09-01T06:21:09","date_gmt":"2023-09-01T06:21:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/defused.com\/?p=263555"},"modified":"2023-09-01T06:21:11","modified_gmt":"2023-09-01T06:21:11","slug":"woman-cancel-thanksgiving-plans","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/defused.com\/woman-cancel-thanksgiving-plans\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman Cancel Thanksgiving Plans After Parents Called Her Brother’s Baby As “First Grandchild”"},"content":{"rendered":"

In a world filled with diverse family structures and connections, one Reddit post shed light on a heartwarming yet poignant story of love, acceptance, and the true meaning of family. OP shared her personal journey of embracing parenthood and the challenges they faced when their children were unexpectedly invalidated by their own grandparents.<\/p>\n

In the post, OP, a 32-year-old woman, reveals her deep connection with her wife, Ava, and their three kids, whom she legally adopted. From the beginning of their relationship, OP embraced the role of motherhood, cherishing every moment with Ava’s two daughters and son. Their love was evident, as the kids affectionately called her “mom” for almost six years.<\/p>\n

However, a recent family gathering exposed a painful truth when OP’s parents, during a visit with their new grandchild, referred to the biological baby as their first grandchild. OP’s children, who had always been a beloved part of the family, were hurt by the implication that they were not truly considered grandchildren. This moment sparked a conflict, leaving OP torn between her loyalty to her parents and her instinct to protect her kids.<\/p>\n

Keep on scrolling down to read the full Reddit post down below and we will see you at the end of the article.<\/p>\n

1. Is OP an A-hole for canceling the plans for Thanksgiving after OP’s parents called OP’s brother’s baby their “first grandchild”? Keep on scrolling down to find out!<\/h3>\n

\"Mood-spoiler\"<\/p>\n

via<\/a><\/p>\n

2. OP has been with her wife for 8 years and has been married for 5 years!<\/h3>\n

\"6-years-now\"<\/p>\n

3. OP’s brother just had a baby girl with his fiance<\/h3>\n

\"my-brother\"<\/p>\n

4. OP was at her brother’s house with her kids just hanging out and OP’s parents ended up dropping by with gifts for OP’s niece<\/h3>\n

\"the-kids\"<\/p>\n

5. OP could tell that it bothered both of them too!<\/h3>\n

\"my-kids\"<\/p>\n

6. OP’s dad shook his head and replied that OP’s niece was their first grandchild!<\/h3>\n

\"my-children\"<\/p>\n

7. OP told her parents that if they didn’t view her kids as their family then they could host a meal at their own house<\/h3>\n

\"my-wife\"<\/p>\n

8. OP left before they could do anything else to her<\/h3>\n

\"regardless-of-our-DNA\"<\/p>\n

9. OP’s brother is mad at OP because he thinks that OP reacted too harshly<\/h3>\n

\"first-thanksgiving\"<\/p>\n

10. OP hasn’t replied back yet and she meant she said<\/h3>\n

\"in-my-eyes\"via<\/a><\/p>\n

11. OP tells us that her wife’s parents don’t have a relationship with the kids<\/h3>\n

\"my-parents-wanted-the-kids\"<\/p>\n

12. Exactly the worst part is that they said it in front of the children!<\/h3>\n

\"the-worst-part\"<\/p>\n

13. OP has been out as a lesbian since she was a teenager<\/h3>\n

\"our-kids\"<\/p>\n

14. They said that they wanted the kids to call them Nana and Pop<\/h3>\n

\"any-time-soon\"<\/p>\n

15. “They call me their mom, and that’s what I am to them.”<\/h3>\n

\"at-the-end-of-the-day\"<\/p>\n

16. OP says if she had ever gotten pregnant she knows she’d love that kid the same way she does to her other three kids<\/h3>\n

\"title-of-mother\"<\/p>\n

17. OP says that she knows that DNA means a lot to some people!<\/h3>\n

\"chose-to-let-me\"<\/p>\n

18. OP has a strong point here!<\/h3>\n

\"just-fine\"<\/p>\n

19. OP and her wife talked with all three of the kids separately and asked them what they wanted to do for Thanksgiving<\/h3>\n

\"My-wife-and-I\"<\/p>\n

20. OP’s 10-year-old took it the hardest out of the three<\/h3>\n

\"what-DNA-says\"<\/p>\n

21. She told OP that she didn’t want to talk to OP’s parents<\/h3>\n

\"she-told-us\"<\/p>\n

22. OP called her dad and told him how much the kids were hurt by what was said by him and OP’s mom<\/h3>\n

\"i-called-my-dad\"<\/p>\n

via<\/a><\/p>\n

23. OP hung up on her dad<\/h3>\n

\"i-hung-up-on-him\"<\/p>\n

24. OP texted her brother and told that she was sorry if he felt like he was being put in the middle of something<\/h3>\n

\"i-texted-my-brother\"<\/p>\n

25. OP also thanked Sara separately for offering my parents and out trying to salvage the situation<\/h3>\n

\"basic-kindness\"<\/p>\n

26. OP didn’t expect the post to take off the way it did<\/h3>\n

\"a-reminder\"<\/p>\n

27. This Redditor shared a story of her dad who had a stepdad<\/h3>\n

\"step-dad\"<\/p>\n

28. They for real treated them like a rent-a-grandkid<\/h3>\n

\"the-part\"<\/p>\n

29. This is what another mother had to say about this<\/h3>\n

\"as-a-mother\"<\/p>\n

via<\/a><\/p>\n

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