{"id":265931,"date":"2023-08-22T07:58:23","date_gmt":"2023-08-22T07:58:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/defused.com\/?p=265931"},"modified":"2023-08-22T07:59:07","modified_gmt":"2023-08-22T07:59:07","slug":"letting-her-bf-to-be-a-hero","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/defused.com\/letting-her-bf-to-be-a-hero\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman Asks If She’s Wrong For Not Letting Her BF To Be A Hero When They Were Mugged"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The story is about a couple walking at night when they encounter a mugger with a knife. The boyfriend wants to be a hero and confronts the mugger, but OP interrupts and gives the mugger their wallet to avoid trouble. The boyfriend is initially angry but later apologizes for his unrealistic hero fantasy. However, it’s revealed that he lied to his friends, blaming the protagonist for the situation. Upset by the lies, OP breaks up with him, realizing the boyfriend’s immaturity and dishonesty. The story highlights the importance of honesty and communication in relationships.<\/p>\n

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The story teaches us that unrealistic hero fantasies can be dangerous and lead to misunderstandings in relationships. It’s important to prioritize safety and be honest with ourselves and others. Communication and honesty are crucial for a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

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OP’s boyfriend tries to be hero and Op loved it until it caused a fight.<\/h2>\n

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During quarantine, OP’s boyfriend suggested a night walk for social distancing, but she was hesitant due to our bad neighborhood. He assured me he’d protect OP.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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During the walk, a man with a knife demanded their wallets and the boyfriend got ready to fight, while OP considered throwing her wallet to escape based on a comedy show reference.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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OP took advantage of the distraction to remove essential items from her wallet, and when the mugger turned, OP handed it over and we ran back to the apartment.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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OP’s boyfriend was angry that she interrupted him from “protecting” her during the mugging, claiming he could handle it himself. She explained the danger and didn’t want him to get hurt over a wallet.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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They argued, but OP suggested talking later when emotions settled. OP called the police, went to their room upset, and rolled away when OP tried to comfort him.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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The next day, he was still angry and told friends and family. They were upset OP didn’t let him be a hero. OP might ask him to move out. She asks AITB?<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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TLDR for those who can’t read it fully.<\/h2>\n

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OP is thanking everyone for the support. He’s at his mom’s, friends ghosted OP, and one friend meditating. Waiting to see what happens next.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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He called, apologized for his behavior, and they talked for hours before sleeping together, seemingly resolving things, but the following day, things went south.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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After mentioning to the friend that things worked out, they responded with relief, assuming OP had apologized, but upon asking about it, OP discovered he had told them a different story, leading to a revelation of the truth.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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He claimed the night walk was OP’s idea, that they were never mugged, and that OP intentionally provoked a stranger to test his masculinity, but he supposedly protected her, feeling emasculated in the process.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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OP confronted him about the lies, and he backpedaled, snapped, and they argued; he decided to end things and tossed his stuff in a bag; he was waiting for his mom outside; OP is grateful to Reddit for opening my eyes.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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TLDR.<\/h2>\n

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via Reddit<\/a><\/p>\n

Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article too.<\/p>\n

True.<\/h2>\n

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Once a liar always a liar.<\/h2>\n

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He has no moral values.<\/h2>\n

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That’s a valid point.<\/h2>\n

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What are your thoughts on this story? What would you do if you were in this situation? You know that your feedback means a lot to us therefore we want you to share your thoughts in the comment section down below. For more such articles, keep visiting Defused. Have a nice day!<\/p>\n

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