Jealousy isn’t something you can control.
At least not most of the time. Now I am not saying it is ever a good thing because jealousy can ruin relationships and turn them toxic. However, if you are feeling suspicious, there might just be something to it. While it is in human nature to sometimes get paranoid about things that aren’t even happening, our senses can tell us a lot. And with how the world is these days, there is no wonder that people get worried about getting cheated on by their partner.
That is the exact worry this woman is having. You see it started when her husband started spending a lot of time with her neighbor who was 12 years younger than them. Now, the age difference doesn’t really matter but they go out to play sports alone and re always messaging each other. I know that may not sound like a lot and you have to trust your partner for a marriage to work but you have to admit, that is a bit suspicious.
First, we get a bit of background on their neighbor and their lives.
I can understand why he would love having a friend with similar interests.
And it is also true gender doesn’t come into the equation of friends but his defensive argument says a lot.
It is a very complicated situation, to say the least.
They might not be up to anything and maybe completely innocent. However, her husband should communicate with her properly rather than letting her worry.
And yet he is not paying any attention to what you feel.
If you tell your husband you’re uncomfortable with behavior like this, and he doesn’t do what he can to alleviate those feelings, something is majorly wrong with that.
His behavior with her might be innocent, but he’s ignoring your feelings like he is, is a huge problem. -Katelyn
If she was with them some of the time, her worries might go away.
However, he doesn’t seem to care at all.
Absolutely not ok, at all that they hang out like that. And even more so not ok that he disregards your feelings about it. This is not normal in any way. You should most certainly notify her husband about this as well. -Ashley
We don’t know for sure but it isn’t looking good.
Doesn’t it always?
Every situation is different, and if it seems suspicious to you then so what you feel is right. We don’t know the whole story so it is hard for us to judge. I am married, and one of my best friends is a male who is also married and about 12-15 years older than me. He was married before we met, and I met him before his wife.
I just got married last week and he and I were friends before my husband and I got serious. We hang out in groups, we hang out the 4 of us, and the guy and I hang out as well, but it’s normally at the gym (we are work-out buddies and his wife even calls me his gym-wife).
Point is, the best person to make the call in your situation is you, and you should do what feels right, even if it’s hard. -Jessica
That might be the right move.
What do you think she should do? Is she taking it a bit too far and should let it go? Or do you think her husband is having an affair? Comment down below and let us know.