Arsalan Sajid
Mostly couples prepare for their wedding ceremony together and dream of the most perfect and memorable day. They don’t want to fall short in organizing their big day. To make their day ideal, they spend many hours choosing the location, decor, attire, and guest list. They desire a hassle-free and enjoyable ceremony for every attendee. Even though they would like every relative to attend, they are concerned about individuals who might cause issues at the event.
OP was organizing the guest list and the ceremony for her wedding with her fiancé. The most important thing was to cut short her fiancé’s stepsister’s kids because her mother never bothered to discipline her misbehaving kids. They scurry around during the entire event, upsetting the attendees. The only thing she could do was invite the couple without children, but she was worried about her in-laws’ reaction. Check out the entire narrative and leave a comment below.
Source: Reddit
1. OP inquired if it was inappropriate to invite her groom’s step-sister to her wedding without her children.
2. OP and her fiancé were in the early stages of arranging their wedding so they were reluctant to share their unspoken thoughts.
3. OP tells us about her fiancé’s eldest step-sister who got married at a very young age and has three children. Her oldest son is physically very active and fond of making loud noises.
4. OP’s fiancé’s step-sister’s younger daughter follows the lead of her older brother and keeps running around in the environment. Their mother does nothing about it and lets her children do as they please. The third child is an infant.
5. OP and her fiancé don’t mind other well-behaved children at the wedding.
6. OP thinks that her sister-in-law’s children will run around at the wedding ceremony and disturb the guests. OP is also worried that other children will also follow their lead and create chaos.
7. OP is concerned that her sister-in-law might not come to the wedding ceremony if her kids are not invited.
8. OP is worried about her sister-in-law’s children who make loud noises and create panic all over the place.
9. OP clarified that her intention was not to go against autistic children but to put a statement out there about their mother who can do a better job at controlling them at public gatherings.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
10. The user asked if OP only invited adults from her sister-in-law’s family, would OP’s father-in-law and stepmother still join the ceremony?
11. In OP’s opinion, her fiancé’s stepmother and father would be there at the wedding, but she wasn’t sure about his stepsister coming without her kids.
12. This user says that it is unreasonable to invite the fiancé’s stepsister at all since they are not that close anyway.
13. OP’s sister-in-law has an autistic kid who gets overstimulated in gatherings but the mother doesn’t take appropriate actions to control her child.
14. The user suggested that OP should set up a wedding ceremony without children and then invite them to the reception to prevent any issues.
15. The user argued to uninvite all the parents who can not keep their children under control in social gatherings to make the stepsister feel better.
16. This user has a valid point! To avoid her sister-in-law’s children attending the wedding, OP should plan a child-free ceremony; otherwise, her in-laws would likely criticize her.
17. OP should advise her fiancé to invite just Mr. and Mrs. to the wedding because her sister-in-law let her kids run around and bother the guests.
18. Due to the small area available for her wedding ceremony, OP was unable to make concessions for her sister-in-law’s children.
19. This user, who has autism, shares her memories of her aunt’s wedding. Her mother was smart enough to remove her from the hall when she became too excited.
20. Of course! Nobody would invite OP’s sister-in-law along with her kids to family gatherings if she let them do whatever they please.
OP’s sister-in-law needs to supervise her kids to prevent any unplanned events or else her kids won’t be invited by family members. She would probably adopt a different mindset if she were told how to manage her children. OP had to oversee a child-free ceremony because she was concerned about their in-laws’ opinion, but it would be unjust to other parents whose children behaved well. What should OP choose to enhance her special day the most? Comment below with your ideas, and check back often at Defused for additional stories.
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