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Babysitting nieces or nephews can be a common act of familial support, where relatives assist with childcare responsibilities. However, this assistance can be taken advantage of in some cases, leading to tensions and conflicts within the family dynamic. This delicate balance between offering help and setting boundaries is a recurring theme in many familial relationships.
A post on the Reddit community shines a light on a similar story. In a bustling household shared with her sister Fran and their combined children, the spotlight falls on Fran’s distinct parenting style—or lack thereof. Every Sunday night, Fran sends her youngest, Anita, to bathe alone, despite her young age, leaving OP to handle the responsibility. Fran continues to neglect her duties, prompting OP to confront her sister about her parenting choices. Fran accuses OP of making her feel like a bad mom, sparking a debate about accountability and parental responsibility.
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1. The OP ask if she is wrong for clarifying to her sister that she is not a live-in babysitter.
2. OP lives in a joint family with her mother. her sister, her two kids and the two children of her late sister. While OP cherishes them, she limits contact with the older boy, 13m, due to his behaviour, but takes care of Anita.
3. Every Sunday night, OP ensure her niece, Anita, gets into the shower and then styles her hair afterwards but her mother Fran doesn’t help with it. If an extra bath is needed during the week, OP takes care of it as well.
4. The same happened again when Fran sent Anita to shower on her own and despite numerous calls and texts didn’t come to help Anita out.
5. When Fran didn’t come despite numerous times calling her, OP helped Anita out with showering and even laid her in bed.
6. Another day, OP’s mother dropped off Anita at home despite knowing Fran wasn’t home because she knew OP would take care of her.
7. This was the limit for OP and she finally confronted her sister about this irresponsible behaviour of her.
8. OP’s sister got upset with her for calling her a bad mother so now OP contemplates if she did the right thing or not.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time to see what Redditors said about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this.
9. OP’s sister just can’t leave her children with OP without saying anything and expects her to step up and help them.
10. Redditors think that it’s time for OP to move out.
11. OP has to start setting boundaries if doesn’t want to be exploited further.
12. Her sister really said she is going to leave Anita with OP even after she moves out.
13. How can OP have responsibility for children she doesn’t even have legal custody of?
14. OP shouldn’t be sharing her address. Why do people like OP’s sister keep having children?
15. OP has to set boundaries now to prevent future responsibilities of children, from falling on her shoulders.
16. Redditors advise OP to not disclose her new address to her family when she moves out.
17. The sister feels like a bad mom because she is a bad mom….no need to get upset on OP for that.
18. Some even felt bad for OP’s mother as she never got a break from raising children.
19. ‘You can’t change anyone’s behaviour but your own.’
20. OP has been generous with her time and patience but it is time she sets her boundaries.
Redditors overwhelmingly sided with OP, emphasizing the importance of clear communication and mutual responsibility in parenting. Fran’s failure to communicate and her expectation for OP to consistently step in were criticized. The consensus was that parental duties should not be delegated casually, but rather require active engagement and understanding between family members. Do share your opinions regarding this debate in the comments section.
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