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One should set clear boundaries before moving in with a partner.
If you are about to move in with your partner, it’s time that you think one more time. Discuss bills and how the house would work before moving in with a partner. Otherwise, things might get ugly. A woman who fled an abusive marriage was looking for a place to live. A woman offered her a place but she was trying to take advantage of OP so she left that place. OP met a guy who was looking for a roommate, OP was also looking for someone who can share a room with her. So, they moved in together.
OP’s boyfriend had three jobs at the time of moving in but when they got into a relationship, the guy got too comfortable. He would not pay the bills and wouldn’t take care of his two husky dogs. The dogs destroyed a lot of things that belonged to OP so she got crates for them and the dogs were fine with crates. OP went out for a week and when she came back, she noticed her rug sitting in the trash. When she inquired about it, her boyfriend told her that dogs threw up poop on it and the smell was awful so he threw it away. OP told him to get a new one because his dogs ruined it but he didn’t agree to it. Scroll down to read the complete story.
1. OP moved in with her bf a year ago. OP bought a set of crates for her boyfriend’s dogs because they have destroyed a lot of her things.
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2. OP was out for a week and when she came back, she noticed her favorite rug was sitting in the trash and got to learn that her boyfriend’s dogs threw up on it.
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3. After two weeks OP sent her boyfriend a link to the rug and told him to get it because the old one was ruined by his dogs but he told her that the area looks better without a rug and that he was behind on the bills.
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4. OP’s boyfriend thinks that OP has been focused on his money and that she should let go of it but OP told him that she pays the majority of the bills and he should at least replace the rug.
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5. What is OP getting out of this relationship?
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6. OP moved in with her boyfriend because her visa is taking forever and she cannot rent alone.
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7. What kind of visa is OP on that she doesn’t have an SSN?
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8. OP fled an abusive marriage so she is waiting on a VAWA.
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9. OP fled an abusive marriage and immediately got into a toxic relationship.
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10. OP was out of her marriage for 11 months and then got into a relationship with this guy.
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11. It seems like OP is not willing to change her situation.
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12. OP cannot leave this guy right now because she does not have an SSN.
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13. OP should break up with that guy.
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14. OP’s boyfriend eats out every day but cannot pay the bills.
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15. OP’s boyfriend’s dogs are severely neglected.
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16. These dogs should not be pets because they do not behave like normal dogs.
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17. This is why dogs eat poop:
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18. OP’s boyfriend’s dogs act like wolves and do not behave when OP is not home.
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19. If the boyfriend wants dogs, he is responsible for them.
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20. OP’s boyfriend had three jobs when they met.
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21. OP should worry more about other problems than a $120 rug.
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22. OP’s boyfriend’s dependency on weed is out of control.
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What do you think OP should do? Should she break up or be in a relationship with this man? Share your opinion in the comment section down below!