Your Birthday comes once a year so you have every right to feel happy.
Though everyone deserves to feel special every day, but something about birthdays is just different. It comes once a year, your friends gather just for you, you receive tons of wishes and birthday presents, you are surrounded by your loved ones and above all it’s a entire day dedicated just to you!
What’s not to love about this? However, sometimes things go wrong and we end up feeling bad on our own birthday. I’m sure growing up a lot of us have experienced being sad on our big day. It’s honestly one of the worst feelings in the world and no one deserves it.
That is why when this Dad noticed that a girl was belitting his daughter on her birthday, he knew he needed to intervene and stop it. So, he did. But, later on, he was accused of overreacting.
Read the whole account below and see if his actions can be justified.
It started out like any other party.
My (34M) daughter (14F) had a sleepover b-day party last Saturday, and she invited 5 girls from her school.
There was this one girl that she invited who I could tell from her attitude, was a spoiled brat. When she rang the doorbell, she walked in looking down at her phone, didn’t greet me or my wife, and handed me her jacket without even looking up.
The whole night she was on her phone doing whatever the heck 14 year olds do on phones. I thought she was just embarrassed or shy because maybe she didn’t know anyone, but according to my daughter, she is a “super duper cool girl”.
It wasn’t long before she started causing trouble.
Anyways, towards the end of the night, my daughter was opening her gifts. SB made a comment about every single gift. (not exactly snarky, but more like she was just unimpressed)
The final gift was from me and my wife, we bought her an iPhone 7 by pooling all of our remaining extra money to buy her it.
the SB scoffed because she had the newest gen iPhone. I helped my daughter set up the phone with a sim card, and the rest of the night they just hung out in her room.
The girl’s comments completely broke her heart.
My daughter came down a bit later and she was just sitting on the couch, I asked her what was wrong and she just went back up while saying “why couldn’t you have just bought me the newest iphone??”. That was really out of character for her, as she is always grateful for receiving anything.
My daughter left the phone on the table. I grabbed my daughter’s phone to see a bunch of texts going back and forth between SB and my daughter, they exchanged numbers and the convo went something like this:
D “hey its me”
SB “thanks for inviting me to ur lame slumber party lol, and congrats on the iphone SEVEN haha”
SB: “arent u mad that ur parents and friends got u such lame gifts”
SB “slumber parties are for little girls lol, but wtvs its cool”
D “u dont like the party..?”
SB “I jus wish i could go home looool”
Something needed to be done.
It was around 1AM and the girls were still up talking, I knocked and asked if I could speak with SB, she looked confused, I told her she needs to grab her things something came up. (I did this as to not embarrass my daughter in front of her friends).
I took her downstairs and asked her to call her mom, she asked why and I said “because thats what you said right? that you wish you could go home? so go.” She was tearing up a bit, and made the call.
I talked w/ her mom for a bit when she came, I showed her the texts and she apologized profusely and said “its just a teenager phase I guess. I’m so sorry, but dont you think she could stay? If not I understand.”
He saved her from feeling bad for the rest of the night.
I thought ab it for a bit, but her staying probably would have made it awkward for everyone, so I told her it was best if they just left.
My wife said that I overreacted, and I should have just talked with SB rather than immediately kick her out, I firmly believe I taught her a good lesson that she needed to learn. It was MY DAUGHTER’s bday, and I didn’t want the rest of her night ruined because of some spoiled brat who was making it all about her. I guess she didn’t exactly do anything wrong, but at the same time her attitude was unbelievable. AITA?
In my book, he did the right thing. I mean, I’m no expert, but then again I don’t need to be. His actions had a dual affect. He saved her the trouble of dealing with a toxic friend, and also informed the girl’s mother of her behaviour. Hopefully, next time she’d know that it’s wrong to belittle someone, whatsoever.
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