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Dad Asks If He’s Wrong For Not Waking Up With Baby In Night And Not Helping His Wife

In the realm of parental duties, the question of nighttime baby care often becomes a point of contention, especially when both partners work full-time jobs. However, when one parent is on extended maternity leave while the other navigates a high-stress career, the division of responsibilities can spark heated debates.

Such is the dilemma faced by a father in a recent Reddit post, seeking guidance on his nighttime duties with his three-month-old baby. As tensions escalate between him and his wife, who remains home full-time during her maternity leave, the couple finds themselves at an impasse over who should wake up with the baby during the night. This tale of parental struggle highlights the complexities of balancing career demands, familial obligations, and the evolving dynamics of parenthood.

Continue scrolling down to delve into the full story.

Source: Reddit

1. Is OP wrong for not attending to their baby at night while working, despite his wife being home?

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2. Seeking sincere advice, OP grapples with understanding the opposing perspective in their situation.

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3. With a 3-month-old and both parents employed, the wife enjoys 6 months of paid maternity leave while OP, a VP Manager, resumes full-time office work after a 6-week parental leave.

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4. During their shared leave, OP willingly attended to nighttime duties for their baby, including preparing bottles, feeding, changing diapers, and soothing back to sleep, cherishing the bonding moments with his daughter.

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5. Transitioning back to work was challenging for OP, as he missed his daughter and wife throughout the day, despite having to fulfil his responsibilities.

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6. The couple faces a dilemma regarding nocturnal baby care on days when the OP must commute to the office.

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7. OP contends that his wife’s full-time presence at home justifies his offer to manage night-time duties during his work-from-home days.

8. Experiencing intense guilt, OP found himself unable to return to sleep after the confrontation. Upon returning from work, they engaged in a heated argument again.

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9. Highlighting his perspective, OP mentioned his wife’s mother’s regular assistance, suggesting that she could have taken a nap during this time to offset the exhaustion from night-time duties.

10. Anticipating a fair division of night-time duties upon his wife’s return to work, he expressed bewilderment at being expected to wake up while he maintains a full-time job.

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11. OP edited to clarify a few things.

12. Following a lengthy conversation with his wife, he expressed gratitude to the Reddit community for their valuable suggestions and candid opinions, which broadened his perspective and prompted introspection.

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13. In summary, OP’s wife experienced a breakdown and tearfully confided in him about her struggles, admitting to symptoms of postpartum depression.

14. Acknowledging the valuable support received, OP expresses gratitude, recognizing the potential life-saving impact of the advice offered by others in the community.

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Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. 

15. Many commenters seem to have already formed opinions without fully reading and understanding the post.

16. The arrangement involves equitable sharing of nights, with one party taking three and the other taking four, ensuring both get adequate rest.

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17. Working full-time, the split seems fair, with nearly half the week allocated.

18. It’s unreasonable for OP to split 50/50 when he is working and she’s staying home. Responsibilities should align with each person’s workload!

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19. A Redditor shared that as a stay-at-home dad, he ensures his wife sleeps undisturbed before her workdays.

20. Another Redditor thinks that OP is the wife and not the husband…judging from the comments.

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The story garnered diverse reactions from the Redditors, but OP’s sincerity shines through. The update indicates a critical need for support, highlighting the importance of coming together in times of crisis. Do share your thoughts in the comments section below.

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