Arsalan Sajid
In modern society, marriages fail most of the time with divorce rates rising day by day. In these situations, the child bears the brunt of the hardships that come with being a single parent. Every child has the right to receive affection and support from both of his parents. When their parents get into another relationship, they also have to deal with their stepdad or stepmom.
On the contrary, the person who enters into a new relationship is unable to face their past. They have to manage their personal and professional lives side by side, neglecting their kids. OP’s fiancé hid her past relationship to begin a new chapter with OP. After a year of dating, they decided to move in together since they were in deep love. She confessed to OP about having a son after six months of dating. It was a shock for OP, but he managed to accept it as he loved her a lot. OP had to move near his fiancé’s hometown to be with her son. OP noticed his fiancé’s behavior with her son and got worried. Read the whole story to find out why OP labeled her as a horrible mother.
Source: Reddit
1. OP wants to know if he should be concerned about his fiancé, who is a horrible mother.
2. OP and his fiancé had a great relationship, although she used to live in a far-off place. Eventually, she decided to move in with OP. They both prioritized their jobs as doctors and were driven to succeed.
3. After six months of togetherness, OP learned that her fiancé already had a child. Though OP was stunned, he overcame it since he loved her a lot.
4. In order to make it easier for OP’s fiancé to visit her family, they moved closer to them. Ultimately they got settled there and opened their own clinic.
5. The fiancé’s son used to spend alternative weeks at each of his parents’ homes after OP’s fiancé got joint custody of him. The stepson’s refusal to bond with OP infuriated his fiancé.
6. In addition to being aloof towards her son, OP’s fiancé gave the impression that she cared for and loved OP more than her own child.
7. Against her promise to her son, OP’s fiancé chose not to attend her son’s basketball match to take care of OP when he got ill.
8. OP’s fiancé showed no affection towards her own child that bothered OP and he began to worry about the well-being of his own future children.
9. OP wants to talk about it with her fiancé but is hesitating to do so.
10. OP noticed that her fiancé’s ex was a great man and was unable to identify any issues that might have caused them to split up.
11. OP is making it clear that the reason behind their divorce was that they had different paths to follow.
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12. OP cherished her and did not want to lose her, as they shared a beautiful relationship.
13. Surely, all children need same level of parental love and care.
14. There is a possibility that she might have disregarded her own son in front of OP because she felt guilty about keeping him hidden.
15. This user criticized her for taking care of OP, which is a different debate to discuss.
16. Yes, quitting is not a solution; one needs to strike a balance between his personal and professional life.
17. If OP’s fiancé did not love her son, why did she want his custody and decide to move to a place close to him?
18. This is a harsh reality of our society.
19. Truly, having kids is a commitment that needs to be fulfilled.
20. Children are parents’ first focus while they are together, but once they split up, they begin a new life and end up making their children suffer.
OP’s fiancé was neglecting her son in front of him because she wanted him to feel like the most important person in her life. OP should tell her openly that he does not want her to ignore the kid. OP needs to be honest with her about his concerns over the welfare of their future children. They can communicate and solve this matter.
What are your thoughts on the circumstances that the OP is facing? Feel free to write your opinions and share your views about the couple.
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