Dad Finds Out That His Daughter Was Getting Troubled By Her Own Mother And Brother, Loses It

This is a deeply emotional and complex family story of a father who initially defended his wife against his daughter’s allegations of abuse but now faces the painful realization that his wife had indeed mistreated their daughter. Their relationship with their daughter has been severed for over a year, and their marriage is strained to the point of divorce. The father is grappling with overwhelming guilt and confusion as he navigates therapy, a strained relationship with his son, and the desire to eventually reconnect with his estranged daughter. Despite the immense challenges and emotions involved, he is determined to take the necessary steps toward healing and reconciliation, all while respecting his daughter’s boundaries and timeline.

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OP has struggled as a father due to work commitments, but his wife and he have a strong marriage; his son lives with them, and our daughter is estranged and living independently.

His daughter and wife have had a long-standing, intense conflict, with allegations of ab*se from the daughter, although there’s uncertainty about the validity. In contrast, his son has a good relationship with his wife.

OP’s daughter accused his wife of physical and verbal abuse, which he vehemently denied while trying to mediate their relationship.

OP’s daughter left home, blamed her mother and OP, and has been estranged for over a year.

In therapy, OP’s wife revealed that she had ab*sed their daughter, and now they are working on repairing the relationship with her.

The wife also admitted the truth about her actions in the conflicts with their daughter.

A year without contact from their daughter, who accused OP of enabling his wife’s mistreatment.

OP is seeking advice urgently, overwhelmed and unwell. He deleted the previous post due to family concerns but is now determined to divorce his wife.

OP appreciated the comments and clarification. OP was initially unsure about divorce due to confusion and fear.

OP’s wife and he are reaching out to our son; he’s not responding, while she’s persistent. He’ll continue therapy and aim to reconnect with the daughter when right.