Thanksgiving is a wonderful celebration to spend quality time with your friends and family. Even though this year’s festivities were smaller in size or even held remotely, however, this tradition should not be ignored. Everything from the traditional dinner and the mouthwatering roasted turkey to family-friendly activities can be included in your Thanksgiving celebrations. But, these celebrations don’t always go according to plan. The event might be ruined for any number of reasons, or it could turn into a dispute or conflict between families. Yes, that’s right.
We have seen so many stories about how their events were wrecked. Likewise, a Reddit User Throwawaygivings, narrated how her boyfriend’s mother called her by a different name other than her own. And how her thanksgiving celebration was ruined. You won’t believe but this tale is filled with a lot of suspense, revenge, and hilarity. So, let’s take a look at Throwawaygivings’ complete story. There is no doubt you will enjoy this story because the user narrated it so well.
Grab your hot cup of coffee, sit back, relax and see what happens next in the story by sticking around to the end.
When this woman’s boyfriend’s mother kept “forgetting” her name, she decided to do something about it.
The boyfriend broke up with his ex-girlfriend and still, his mother was heartbroken about it.
The ex-girlfriend grew up with the family and was considered a member of it.
Her boyfriend’s mother used her ex’s name whenever she addressed her.
After calling with the ex’s name, his mother started calling her by the wrong names.
The couple was invited at BBQ
The mother suggested: “SURE! Why don’t we let Janet make the turkey this year?”.
The girlfriend said, “that’s a great idea!”. But, she didn’t discuss the whole thing with his boyfriend.
The couple went to the BBQ. Afterward, things were a little surprising.
The couple was kicked out of the house.
The Reddit user narrated the whole story to see what people thought about not taking a turkey with them to the BBQ. She said that the entire family had a different attitude towards her. She said: “I know they were close to his ex but it was just understandable,” she explained. “She grew up with them.”
“[My boyfriend’s mom] wasn’t a big problem at first. But the more serious it got between my BF and me, the more I worried she would be a problem. I kept that to myself, though, and that may have been my mistake. I could have shown him more than her disrespect actually bothering me a lot and that I was worried about the future.”
Still, the woman expected his mother would change and start to like her. She stated: “We didn’t see much of each other [before the conflict], so it wasn’t affecting me. But when [me and my BF] started to see more of her, I realized her dislike got stronger the more serious my BF and I got.”
People came in full support!
University of Cambridge Center for Family Research and Stand Alone Institute studied and discovered the reasons behind why families break apart. One of the most common reasons was an unhealthy relationship between parents and their son’s wife.
This study was based on a survey of more than 800 men and women in England who didn’t see their families very often or at all. Parents and sons had a lot more problems than parents and daughters did. It took a third longer for problems between parents and sons to get better than between parents and daughters. Mental health problems and emotional abuse were the two issues that were most often cited as “very relevant” in the breakup of relationships with daughters. But the most common problems that came up with sons were divorce, in-laws, and marriage.
Dr. Terri Apter, a psychologist and former Senior Tutor at Newnham College, Cambridge, and author of What Do You Want From Me?: Learning to Get Along with In-Laws, stated the most common conflicts or problems arise between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. “Closeness, respect, and influence in the family are particularly important to women,” Dr. Apter quoted: “For all the change that’s been, women still feel that part of their personal worth is linked to their roles in the family, whether that’s day-to-day care, or long-term nurturing. Since in-law visits often take place in the home, where kinship, status, and respect are expressed – and tested! – there can be competition.”
One of the main reasons why the conflict arises is that the mother-in-law feels threatened. Dr. Apter stated: “This new woman, now closest kin to her son, may displace her. We get into the mindset: ‘I have to prove to her that I have more status/respect/love because I need to reassure myself that I’m still an important part of this changing family.’ The wife, on the other hand, wants reassurance that she has a proper say in the family she and her husband form. She does not want to be undermined, so her mother-in-law’s effort to protect her status may threaten her. That’s why when each assures the other that she is valued and included, the tension is likely to ease,”
Well, there could be other reasons why in-law relationships get a little strained and tense.
Later, the woman updated the whole story when the story went viral on social media.
The woman was surprised by the huge amount of support from strangers.
Thanksgiving is held at in-laws because they have the best dining rooms.
MIL and the lady rarely speak to each other.
Even when they were in the same room, the MIL never spoke to the woman.
MIL became enraged when she heard the SIL and her husband discussing the woman’s cooking.
The MIL got exasperated and triggered.
Only those who were familiar with “Janet” were aware of what was going on.
The husband was frustrated and drove the woman home.
The woman updated the whole story.
The couple had a talk and the woman apologized again.
Lastly, the couple parted away.
Now, it’s time for the mother-in-law to start referring to her bf’s new girlfriend by her name.
Let’s see what strangers suggested the woman on her post:
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