Malaika
Relationships require a lot of work.
It is not like in the movies where they get married and live happily after. After the marriage is when the real work starts. But if you really care for your partner, you really don’t care how much effort you have to put in to make it work. However, it can only work if both of you are into it and one person is not the one doing all the heavy lifting. Although, in many cases, this is not the case and it is always sad to see.
Now, this particular story may seem quite simple on the surface but there are a lot of things happening behind the scenes guessing from what he told in the story. You see, it all started with this guy wanting to buy expensive coffee because he simply loves coffee. Now I do understand wanting to stay within the budget but the guy is the only one working so I do believe he deserves to splurge a little bit of his own money.
You will understand what I am talking about once you scroll below and read it for yourself.
Source: Reddit
The title makes it sound worse than it actually is.
Honestly, I love coffee as well so I tend to spend a little more on it as well.
Now we get into the meat of the situation and it doesn’t look like things are working out.
Being depressed isn’t an excuse to act horribly.
And it is not as if they are in a tight situation either.
So when she called him out on his ‘expensive’ habit, he wasn’t happy.
But rather than understanding where he was coming from, she stormed off.
Honestly, this doesn’t seem like it is working. They need to communicate better and maybe go into couple therapy. Because to me, it looks like it is about more than just the coffee. But if we focus only on the surface-level stuff then I would say she is completely in the wrong. I wouldn’t feel good either if my partner kept nagging me about things I spent my money on as long as I wasn’t overspending. And since he always stays within the budget, I don’t know what the big problem is.
People in the comments could also sense that something was off.
Coffee is not the only problem here.
It doesn’t seem like a healthy environment for anyone in my opinion.
She is getting therapy but it doesn’t seem to be working.
She needs a healthy outlet for her feelings and this isn’t the way.
I understand being depressed sucks but it is not fair on her partner either.
She seems like she is trying but she is drowning and taking him down with her.
It is not selfish to care for yourself.
This comment puts everything in perspective.
It is just coffee so it shouldn’t be this big a deal.
A bit harsh but completely true.
I am glad that he is beside her in this hard time for her.
I can only hope that they both work it out because love is clearly there.
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What are your thoughts on this story? Do you think this is about more than just the coffee? What would you do if your significant others kept bugging you like this? Let us know in the comments below and don’t forget to share it with your friends so they can join in the discussion as well.