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A healthy relationship is the one where both the partners care for each other and share the responsibilities equally.
Pregnancy is that one news that brings happiness in your relationship and you wait for the baby to come and light up your whole world but it’s not as cool as it sounds. Pregnancy is a roller coaster ride for most women. You feel tired, you feel emotional or sometimes angry out of no reason. It all gets easier when you have a caring partner who takes all the responsibilities on their shoulder and let you rest but don’t forget your husband is also a human being and responsibilities can drain him out. This is exactly what happened with a Reddit user who felt so drained out that he took it to the AITA community to help him out. OP works a full-time job and has been doing 100% of the house chores while his 24 weeks’ wife does nothing. Lately, OP has started feeling really stressed out and has been facing hair loss due to stress. He talked to his wife to share the house chores 80/20 but she got offended and told him that he is being selfish. Scroll down to read the full story.
1. OP’s wife is 24 weeks pregnant.
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2. OP is a good husband.
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3. OP works full-time and does all the house chores.
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4. OP has started getting a little burnt out.
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5. It’s not easy for OP to work full-time and then do 100% of the house chores.
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6. OP had two separate conversations with his wife about splitting the chores 80/20 but both times she got offended.
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7. OP’s wife asked him to go to the store and get her fruit snacks.
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8. OP’s wife thinks he is selfish.
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9. OP responded to her angrily:
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10. OP told her he is done doing 100% of the chores.
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11. OP was stressed out and told her how he was feeling about the current situation.
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12. His wife locked him out of the bedroom.
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13. OP is feeling guilty. AITA or NTA?
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OP reacted angrily because he was stressed out of over-working all this time. His wife needs to be a little cooperative in this. We can understand pregnant wives have mood swings and cravings but girl, you need to give space to your husband. Get up and share some of the responsibilities with him or at least you should have done this in the initial months so you would not have to get this reaction from him. He would have understood if you would have shared some of the chores before but now he is stressed out. And, it is so low of her to tell this to her mother and OP’s MIL called him and made him feel guilty. We hope things get settled between you two. Scroll down to read what Reddit users have to say about the situation.
14. She can do light housework. Also, she is being manipulative.
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15. Unless it is a high risk, pregnant ladies can work.
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16. She is pregnant, not on her death bed.
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17. Household chores keep you active.
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18. She is taking advantage of OP’s fears and being manipulative.
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19. She is using her pregnancy as a tool.
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20. A pregnant woman can do minimal chores.
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21. NTA. Pregnancy is not an illness.
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22. NTA. She should have taken some of the responsibilities in the very first months of pregnancy.
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23. Someone wants OP to show all the comments to his wife.
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24. She is taking advantage of OP’s kindness.
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Is OP justified to ask his wife to do some house chores? Comment down to let us know what do you think? Is OP TAH or NTA?