Malaika
Taking care of children can be quite expensive.
We all know that babysitting costs a lot. And if both parents are busy in their jobs, this cost is a must. Even if one parent decides to stay home, their part of the income will vanish. So it is very important to talk it out with your partner before you decide when it comes to this. However, many people think it is going to be a flower field and have a kid when they can’t even properly take care of them.
Although in this story, it’s less about the wife wanting a kid and more about how the husband is almost angry at her for not working full time. He seems to think she doesn’t contribute enough to their household and should get another job. I have no idea what is going in their relationship but this is not the way to go when explaining this. I mean even the woman told the guy she wanted a kid through a letter rather than having a serious conversation.
You can see for yourself by scrolling below.
Source: Reddit
I mean if he has to mention this, it probably does bother him a little.
Sounds like a normal Christmas however things took a turn.
It wasn’t right that she sprung this on him like this, and he is right for the most part.
Although the way he went about it was all wrong and there was no need to mention that she earned less.
It’s everyone choice not to have a baby, but you need to talk it out with your partner.
I think I could be the asshole because my wife is trying to help me financially, and I told her that she wasn’t helpful.
And he should have handled the situation better.
This comment is quite correct. How is she supposed to take care of the baby while working full-time?
I don’t mean to be rude, but I honestly doubt that they would be able to afford all the costs of having a child just by giving up travelling. Even if travelling is done multiple times a year, childcare costs (i.e. daycare or loss of wife’s income to stay home & watch a child) + other expenses such as food, healthcare, etc, would likely be much more that what they spend in a year travelling. –skthebsof
There is never going to be a perfect moment, but it is their choice at the end of the day.
Did she know he wanted to wait this long before having a baby?
Honestly, nobody is fully in the right in this particular situation.
A letter is not the way to go when revealing such an important thing.
Please don’t have children if even one of you is not ready or doesn’t want to. A child is going to become a real person some day, and you’ll certainly mess them up a little if you do this out of obligation.
Trust me, I’m that child. My parents have been great to me but even then, because it was an obligation for them to have a child, I have things in me that aren’t quite healthy 🙁
It’s really not about whether you can afford a child. Even if you can afford it, if one of you aren’t ready it’ll most likely not be a good time. –megawotaku
I don’t think it’s been glossed over at all. Everyone agrees it was wrong.
Who do think is in the right here? Comment down below and let us know.