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Is it okay to go on a ski trip with your friends while your daughter is sick?
I don’t think any father or mother would ever do such a thing to their child. Knowing that your child is unwell and it is the most clingy to one parent when it happens, the parent under less load should do everything in their power to be there for the two and balance the burden properly. Children with a permanent medical condition are very picky about things and you have to conform to it, you cannot tell them no because for the most part, even they don’t have authority over their decisions. So if your child is sick and it likes to be with his/her mother, as a father you should be responsible and find ways to lower the mother’s burden and not think about him getting exhausted and how to deal with that exhaustion.
In today’s story, we have a father who shares a story about his autistic daughter Chloe and how her sickness had been exhausting him and his wife. Chloe had been sick for over a month and when she gets stuck, she likes to sleep with her mother. This resulted in her mother having a lot of sleepless nights. The father played his role and took care of his daughter whenever he could. This resulted in the father getting exhausted as well and to deal with the tiring routine, he decided to leave with his friends to enjoy a ski trip.
The father did this even though his wife had shut the idea down because she believed he used to get all his rest at night while she used to stay awake every night to look after her daughter.
The decision to leave for the ski trip angered OP’s wife. The matter was posted on the sacred community of AITA to know whether he was right or wrong for leaving for a ski trip to deal with his exhaustion…without letting his family know.
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1. OP’s autistic daughter has been sick since Halloween and it is not an easy task taking care of her…especially for her mother.
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2. Chloe has been sleeping with her mother for over a month because that’s what she does when she is sick and OP’s wife hasn’t been able to rest well during this period because Chloe likes to move a lot in bed while sleeping.
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3. OP understands how tough it is on his wife so he too gives in his all to look after Chloe just so all the burden is not on his wife.
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4. This exhausted OP as well so he decided to go on a ski trip with his friends but his wife rejected the idea.
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5. OP thought her stopping him from going was unfair and proceeded with the plan and left for the ski trip without physically informing his wife…he only left a note to let them know where he was.
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6. Upon returning, he found out that his wife and Chloe had left the house and were staying at his MIL’s house…super unhappy with him.
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7. OP’s friends supported him but his mother called him an as*hole for what he did.
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OP was the AH in this story. It made no sense for him to leave for a trip with his friends while his autistic daughter was still sick. He shifted all the burden back to his wife in terms of dealing with his daughter. And if you think about it, he used to get a good 8 hours of sleep every night while Chloe’s mom was the one who would sleep with her, and as you have read, her way of sleeping never let the mom sleep properly.
So if there is anyone who deserved a ski trip, it was the mother. Not the AH OP.
The community members of the subreddit AITA wanted to know a bit more before they passed the final judgment:
8. It was only fair if OP’s wife got a 4-day ski trip as well…or vacation of choice.
OP’s response:
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9. People were curious to know if OP’s wife did nothing while he was at work and Chloe was at the daycare.
OP’s response:
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10. Redditors were also concerned and anxious to know the reasons why Chloe had been sick since Halloween.
OP’s response:
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Once the Redditors were satisfied with the information they got provided by the OP, it was now time to vote.
11. OP had been getting a break every single night because Chloe would sleep with his mother. It’s the wife who should’ve gone on the ski trip.
12. He should’ve left for the trip only after his wife consented to it. This is so unfair to her.
13. What OP basically did was abandon his wife and child, and left them on their own to deal with whatever came up.
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