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Getting married is easy but managing a happy life can be difficult.
Getting married is fun. You have a partner to share your life with. It is not as easy as it sounds but it is a roller coaster ride and only those who are understanding live a happily married life. In some marriages, one partner works and the other partner manages the house while in some marriages, both the partners work and divide the responsibilities equally. Today, we have a story of a husband who has been married to his wife for 6 years now. OP and his wife both work and earn good salaries and have their finances separate while they divide all the expenses 50-50. They decided to have a child. The wife told her husband that she would be given a one-year maternity leave by her company but she would be given half salary for the first six months and the rest of the six months will be unpaid leaves so she wants him to compensate her for the loss of her salary. Scroll down to get into the details.
1. OP and his wife decided to have a baby after 6 years of marriage.
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2. OP has been married to his wife for 6 years now.
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3. When OP and her wife got married, they decided to split the finances 50-50.
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4. They kept their finances separate.
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5. They decided to have kids.
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6. OP’s wife asked him to have a serious talk about something.
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7. OP went upstairs to talk to her.
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8. OP’s wife discussed the finances in detail with him.
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9. OP’s wife wanted him to compensate her for $50k.
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10. OP was very turned off to hear what his wife wanted.
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11. OP’s wife told him that she may require more time off so she had another plan for it.
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12. OP’s wife told him to split the loss of half of her income and she was ready to take the rest of her 50% salary.
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13. OP thinks his wife wanted both of them to suffer half the loss of income.
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14. OP’s wife told him that it is very unlikely that she takes off more than a year but she wanted a third plan for the safe side.
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15. OP’s wife handed him 16 pages, some detailed notes and a list of expenses.
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16. OP thinks his wife wanted him to pay her $50K to $100K.
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17. OP thinks a payment plan to have a child is gross because most of the parents have kids without any payment plan.
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18. OP’s wife wanted to write up an agreement on splitting the finances.
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19. OP is suspicious about why his wife was talking to her sister on the same day.
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20. OP’s wife previously had an abortion.
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21. OP still does not know if his wife is pregnant.
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22. Summary of the story:
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23. Man, what do you even mean by spiritually married?
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24. Someone is annoyed after reading the whole story.
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25. Is OP trying to walk away from his responsibility?
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26. Someone is speaking facts and OP should take notes.
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27. Why is it always expected from a woman to give?
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28. We appreciate OP’s wife for being a genius.
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Now, we know how amazing she is at what she does.
29. When you think women are emotional:
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30. “We are not emotional enough.”
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31. Man, have some romance with finances.
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32. People change over the years.
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33. OP, are you trying to abandon her?
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34. If you want a baby, you just cannot walk away from the relationship anytime you want.
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35. Pregnancy should not be a burden only for a woman.
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36. Is that what OP means?
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37. Having a baby should not be a sort of transaction.
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38. OP’s wife is right to discuss things beforehand.
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Now that you have read the complete story. Comment down to let us know what do you think? Is OP the AH or NTA? What do you think about splitting the finances in half? Should he compensate for his wife’s financial loss?