Family relationships can be difficult to navigate, especially when it comes to money matters.
The question of whether to help a family member in need is a difficult one, especially when it comes to financial assistance. This is the situation facing one individual who is grappling with the decision of whether to use their inheritance money for their own future education or to help their sister’s chronically ill husband pay for surgery. The dilemma has caused a rift in the family and raised questions about priorities and responsibility.
In this case, OP is confused about whether to use her inheritance money to pay for her sister’s husband’s surgery or to save it for her college tuition. After losing their father a year ago, OP and her sister received an inheritance. While OP is planning to use her share of the inheritance to pay for college tuition, her sister used her share to buy new cars and renovate her house. Despite their strained relationship, the sister kept visiting OP and venting about her husband’s health problems. When the sister asked for help paying for her husband’s surgery, OP refused, fearing that her sister may not be able to pay her back in time for her to attend medical school. This was when the family drama started. Scroll down to read the full story.
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OP and her sister lost their father a year ago, leaving them inheritance money. The sister used her share to buy new cars and renovate her house while OP is planning to use her inheritance to pay for college tuition.
OP has a strained relationship with her sister since her sister’s husband who is chronically ill, made backhanded comments about their father’s illness and caused a scene at his funeral but her sister still visits her and vents about her husband’s health problems.
OP’s sister directly asked her to help pay for her husband’s surgery but OP is hesitant as there’s no guarantee that her sister will pay back before she applies for college:
OP refused to help her sister which resulted in her sister having a meltdown and calling her heartless, cruel with no empathy, and implying that OP would be responsible for her nephew growing up without a father if she didn’t help.
OP’s sister kept blaming and guilting her for not helping her with his surgery, and her aunt warned that OP should be prepared for permanent damage in her relationship with her sister if she doesn’t help.
OP’s sister is making her feel like she’s being selfish for not helping with the surgery but her friend warned her not to give them money as she may not get it back and may not be able to pursue her dream of going to medical school.
While family is important, it’s crucial to prioritize one’s own goals and aspirations. It’s understandable that OP wants to use her inheritance money for her education, especially if it’s her lifelong dream to become a doctor. While it may be difficult to say no to a family member in need, it’s important to consider the long-term consequences of giving away a large sum of money. OP’s friend rightly warns her that she may not get the money back and may jeopardize her future plans.
OP’s sister wants money but she is not willing to give up her luxurious lifestyle:
OP planned for the future but her sister didn’t plan for the future:
Seems like OP’s sister always had the plans to spend OP’s money.
OP’s BIL didn’t let OP stay at their house but now they want her to help them with his surgery.
OP’s sister should sell the luxurious items for her husband’s surgery.
Family matters are complicated, and it’s not always easy to make the right decision. However, it’s important to consider one’s own goals and aspirations before giving away a large sum of money. What do you think? Is OP TAH for refusing to pay for her sister’s husband’s surgery with her inheritance money? Comment below.
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