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Tragedy struck when, at the age of eight, the OP’s aunt, her husband, and Nana were killed in a fatal car accident. In the aftermath, the OP’s parents took in their three orphaned cousins, leading to a shift in family dynamics and financial strain. The emotional neglect became apparent as the OP’s parents focused intensely on the needs of the newly adopted triplets, causing the OP to lose her hobbies and eventually discover that her college fund had been drained for her cousins’ education.
The situation further unraveled when the OP’s maternal grandparents revealed the truth about the depleted college fund and the threats from her parents to keep this information hidden. This revelation fueled a sense of betrayal and detachment, leading the OP to distance herself emotionally from her parents over the years. As the OP approached marriage, she took a bold step in setting clear boundaries by having her grandpa walk her down the aisle and her grandma take on the traditional mother-of-the-bride role. The decision to invite her parents only as guests or not at all reflected the deep emotional scars and the difficulty in forgiving the years of neglect.
So keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end otherwise, you won’t be able to let us know if OP is an A-hole in this case.
1. OP gave a little introduction about herself, she’s 27 years old and an only child moreover, she said that her mother was also an only child and they belong to a middle class family.
2. When OP was 8 her aunt, her husband, and OP’s nana died in a car accident, and due to this the cousins were taken in by OP’s parents and OP’s mother had to quit her teaching job to give them intensive therapy and constant reassurance.
3. OP’s dad got a little inheritance from OP’s nana and he used to pay the house off and the remaining was split into 3 cousins for their college funds
4. OP said from age 8 to 13 her parents forgot to focus on her and all of their focus was on her three cousins OP had to quit all of her hobbies because the budget was tight and her cousins’ hobbies were expensive moreover, OP’s parents make sure that they had the same standard of living.
5. Things took a turn when OP got to know at the age of 13 that her parents drained all of her college funds
6. OP said when her cousins started going to college their relationship wasn’t so bonded with OP and the relationship was all about occasional phone calls, now OP is about to get married so she asked her grandpa to walk her down the aisle and her grandma would take the role of traditional mother of the bride.
7. OP handed her parents their invite and told them that they were welcome only as guests or not at all and in response they got angry
8. OP’s cousins even contacted her and offered her what was left in their college funds but OP says it’s the emotional neglect that hurts not the money, now OP wants to know if she’s an A-hole or.
9. Seems fair!
10. Exactly, the whole situation isn’t about the money it’s about the emotional neglect that OP went through.
11. NTA
12. This user has a solid point, what do you think?
13. And somewhere deep inside am sure they regret it
14. Totally NTA!
15. It was great of OP that she told them what was in her heart
16. OP’s emotions are legit valid!
17. Now they have to deal with the consequences and if they don’t want to deal with it they could have done better
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