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In the aftermath of a divorce led by polyamorous relationship issues, the OP’s ex-husband requested an open marriage. Despite a string of partners on his end and a two-year steady relationship on hers, the marriage ultimately ended when he issued an ultimatum to choose between him and her partner. Opting for separation, the OP moved in with her partner and embraced a lifestyle where, due to her passive income from military compensation, she chose not to work for mental health reasons. In the co-parenting arrangement with her ex-husband, they share custody of their daughter, with the child attending daycare while the OP takes care of the house.
The ex-husband, unhappy with the situation, confronted the OP during discussions about selling the marital house. He expressed disapproval of her decision not to return to work, deeming it questionable for her to send their daughter to daycare while not being employed. The OP defended her choice, citing mental health reasons and asserting that her current arrangement allowed her to provide better care for their child. The ex-husband, however, went as far as labeling her an unfit parent for this decision, intensifying the conflict between them over parenting choices and lifestyle post-divorce.
So keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end otherwise, you won’t be able to tell whether OP is an A-hole or not.
1. OP and her husband got divorced due to polyamorous issues
2. OP’s husband said that she has to drop her partner or they separate so OP chose to separate because her partner treated her better than her husband moreover, she treated her daughter like she was his own.
3. After the divorce OP moved out of the marital house and rented it to him below market price she moved in with her partner and they have been pretty close since moreover, they share custody of their daughter. After OP moved in with his partner OP’s ex-husband said that if she doesn’t want to work due to her mental health she doesn’t have to as she gets passive income from the military.
4. OP took his suggestion and she hasn’t had a job since January and all she does is take care of the house, look after the veggie garden, and run errands.
5. They had a meeting and OP offered to sell him the house because she thought being a landlord was gonna cause problems with the co-parenting later but he snuck in and asked when she was going back to work
6. He said that considering that OP is a stay-at-home parent it is kinda messed up that their child still goes to daycare every day, and he even said that some people would think that she’s an unfit parent.
7. Now OP wants to know whether she’s an A-hole or not, let’s find out.
8. Moreover, OP told the users that they both have to pay for the daycare.
9. NTA
10. This user got a point, what do you think is valid?
11. Almost everyone is saying OP is NTA and we guess we know why
12. Would a judge say that?
13. Exactly, there’s no harm if she’s going to daycare and OP is giving time to herself which is okay.
14. To ignore him is the best solution for OP and her mental health
15. We all hope that OP enjoys her new life
16. LOL
17. Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t ask for advice!
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