People do weird things when they are in pain.
I remember literally trying to rip my clothes apart when I am in extreme pain. It’s just how it is, people shout, scream their loved one’s name. Honestly, it is a blur that you can’t even recall after the fact. However, calling your dead ex’s name when you are giving birth to your fiance’s son is a new level.
This is a story for the ages because of how complicated and muddy the morality in all of this is. it seems both of the people in the relationship did not expect this and now don’t know what to do. So what do you do when you are stuck? Ask Reddit for help of course! And Reddit users are always there to set you straight.
Although the consensus on this one seems a bit muddled. You can take a look for yourself by scrolling below.
It should be a very happy and congratulatory time for the parents.
However, it is less than perfect because of a ‘little’ problem.
It isn’t like it was just her ex, he died so it is different.
It must be very terrifying to have to push another human being out of your body.
And this is when things really took a turn into the worst.
I can somewhat understand his point of view as well.
However, she should also realize what he must have gone through at that point.
I think she does owe him an apology for getting angry with him.
That does sound a bit harsh if I say so myself.
The fiance then elaborated on what is happening currently and it is not good.
This user sums it up pretty perfectly.
WOW, that was a tough thing for you to go THROUGH. It’s like saying someone else’s name during s*x. But dude as guys we will never go through the pain women go through during childbirth. As you would have seen she went through a traumatic experience and said her ex-fiancé’s name because she’s clearly not over him. Saying her dead fiancé’s name in her sleep was a MASSIVE MASSIVE RED FLAG and something you both should have talked about in detail before even getting engaged.
You really need to be careful about how you move forward with this. You may need to take a hit and apologize so you have access to the baby. The main thing is your relationship with the baby and not with the fiance. She clearly needs to seek therapy to move on from her previous fiance and this may cause a break down in your relationship as she “realizes she moved on too quickly from him and your relationship was a mistake” or something.
I also recommend that you document and record every interaction with your fiance and the baby, you might need to fight for access and will need all the evidence you can get to support your case (speak to a lawyer for more info).
I suggest you speak to her mother before saying anything to your fiance. She can help you out by making your fiance see things from your perspective and fight your corner. –jagsingh85
A loved one dying is very different and it leaves a scar on you.
Both of them need help, she more so than him.
They need to look for an outside perspective.
Just don’t jump into anything. Be patient and everything will be fine.
That could be one way of looking at it.
That is true as well.
Who knows at this point really?
What do you think of this situation? Who do you think is in the wrong here? Let us know in the comments below.