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In this story, a mother is grappling with a complex family dynamic involving her mother-in-law. Initially, the relationship between the mother and her MIL was strained due to the MIL’s homophobia. However, things took a positive turn after the mother had a child, and the MIL became more accepting. The grandmother loves being involved in her grandchild’s life, but as the child gets older, differences in parenting styles have started to emerge.
OP and her husband have established certain rules and routines for their child, including no sweets, no tech usage, and a gentle parenting approach. These rules are in contrast to the MIL’s parenting style, which tends to be more aggressive and includes activities like giving the child sweets and allowing tech use. The mother is concerned about these differences and how they might undermine the parenting decisions she and her husband have made for their child.
Now OP is hesitant to allow her MIL to babysit regularly. OP’s husband, on the other hand, believes it’s essential to include the grandmother in their child’s life and suggests relaxing the restrictions. This conflict highlights the challenges and compromises that often arise when different generations and parenting philosophies intersect within a family. Now OP wants to know if she’s an A-hole for not allowing MIL to babysit.
Keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end.
1. OP gets along well with her MIL at first they had a non-existent relationship because of her homophobia but now as OP has a son who’s four years old MIL loves getting involved with him, but OP and MIL have their differences.
2. OP told users that they have a completely reliable babysitter, OP and her husband make pre-make meals for their son and all a babysitter has to do is follow a routine
3. OP has some rules at home which are no sweets and juice moreover, no tech is involved. Sometimes when the babysitter doesn’t make it up OP reaches to her mom to see if she’s available to babysit her son. OP said that she is more comfortable with her being home alone with her son.
4. MIL on the other hand undermines OP’s parenting style, she gives him her meals and sweets and even lets him use and watch YouTube on phone which is bothering OP
5. OP says MIL’s parenting style is aggressive while their parenting style is gentle
6. Now OP wants to know whether she’s an A-hole for not allowing her MIL to babysit
7. User made a solid point! I agree with it
8. This is actually true! Once they are spoiled they are spoiled
9. People who don’t respect you don’t get to watch your children
10. Users, what do you think about this response?
11. Point made, if she cannot respect your parenting, she cannot babysit unsupervised.
12. NTA
13. Consistency is key in parenting and if you lack that you are lacking parenting
14. Clear to the point!
15. It will be confusing for the kid and he’ll be confused between the choices they give him
16. Kids need consistency
17. This user was concerned that OP’s husband should have her back
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