Malaika
An engagement ring is supposed to last a lifetime.
While I am a big advocate of not spending a fortune over an engagement ring, I do think it should be made from a metal that will last a lifetime. It doesn’t have to be diamond and such but something that looks pretty even after years of being cleaned. I do agree that the diamond industry takes advantage of people with how exorbitant they price their jewellery, but it doesn’t mean you should go exactly the opposite way.
I understand that it is the thought that counts and that money should matter if you want to spend the rest of the life with someone you love. However, engagement rings are usually supposed to be able to take a lot of wear and tear. So it is always recommended getting one that you know will not dull or get scratches. Although this guy didn’t think that was necessary and got a ring from Pandora. Now I have nothing against the company known as Pandora, but you have to admit and engagement ring from there is not a very nice thought, and I am not even talking about the money.
Source: Reddit
An engagement ring should not only look pretty, but it should also be durable.
I understand that he is getting a bit defensive, but he needs to hear her concerns before jumping to conclusions.
And unsurprisingly enough, it has not even been that long and the ring is already losing its shine which he still blames on her.
Have you had real conversations about money and how you plan to handle finances after you are married? This situation makes me question his judgement when it comes to financial priorities. Even if you always make the same amount, split the bills and keep your money separate marriage requires you to agree about money. This situation makes me worry how much he prioritizes your wants and needs when it comes to finances.
Everyone has stupid moments, so I don’t say run but definitely make sure you are on the same page with money before you plan a wedding with him. –Used-Situation
I actually was not aware of that, so it is always great to learn new things.
And this comment explains everything in detail pretty well why this ring is not it.
It isn’t about being expensive at the end of the day though.
It feels like I am harping on this but while it isn’t about the money, it should be a quality ring.
If they aren’t dealing with a seriously sh*tty financial situation then I don’t see a reason to do this.
If it’s not about the money then the look of the thing you wear EVERY DAY shouldn’t matter…WTF?
Pandora makes plenty of shit that lasts and plenty that doesn’t. I know, I used to sell it. I’ve got a lovely sterling silver locket I often wear, had it 5 years. It could use a professional cleaning and refinishing, but it’s good so far. Because it’s solid sterling silver. Plated anything is junk unless is rhodium plated GOLD.
I’m not surprised you’re already noticing changes. I’m not usually the type to be about “it’s the ring that’s important” but…yeah this is a little ridiculous. He’s either completely clueless or knew it was junk and thought it was fine. And either way, you’re unhappy and have a legit concern, which should strike a chord with him at least a little.
NTA, and I would seriously examine your relationship for other instances of him not giving a shit about your feelings and/or being super cheap. –
Exactly! He needs to learn to hear her honest concerns and not get defensive about the money.
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