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Stress really can break a person down.
Breakdowns don’t happen every other day. It is a result of a lot of stress accumulating within a person until their saturation point is reached and there is no other way to survive it but to let it all out. Stress has been consuming a lot of people and relationships in recent times.
In recent times, Reddit user sayejav shared in the sacred community of Am I The A**hole shared how much stress had been getting to him and he wasn’t too far away from his breaking point. OP has a family of two kids, and a beautiful wife to help cope with stress but recently he had been feeling extremely tired and stressed thanks to so many deadlines to complete at the office, and the second factor adding to his exhaustion was his stay-at-home-mom wife who hadn’t been feeling too well.
OP had been advised to take a week off from work, that’s how badly he needed the rest and when one day his wife woke him up in the middle of the night to help with the kids, things turned upside down, OP reached his saturation point and had a breakdown, resulting in him to start yelling at his wife. This is what the OP’s AITA question basis on, was he wrong for yelling at his wife who wanted him to help with the kids, or not?
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1. OP requests everyone not to jump to any conclusions before reading the whole story.
Never judge a book by its cover.
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2. OP fully realizes that taking care of the children tires his wife and so he tries to support her by doing the house chores when he returns home from work, just to balance the stress levels as she is not a machine.
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3. Recently, OP had been working really hard at work to finalize a project and of course, it was exhausting.
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4. Such a routine can easily get anyone sick because of the immense stress. OP had been dealing with a lot.
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5. The children got the flu so now both the parents were stressed. The SATM was due to the children’s health and OP was due to the same reason and his work. These are tough times.
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6. This man really needs some rest.
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7. OP required a week off from work if he wanted to stay alive.
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8. I am so glad his wife understands his condition. The couple has mutuality.
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9. Uh ho, she woke him up and I don’t think he is going to receive this well.
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10. OP sounds like he is pleading with his wife to take over his duties for a single day but it isn’t working. This couple is so going to erupt in a fight.
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11. OP finally couldn’t hold it in anymore and had a proper breakdown.
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12. The yelling seemed to do the job but the real question is, how much damage did it do?
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13. His wife didn’t like the way she got yelled at and wanted OP to be a responsible father.
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14. 2 days is a lot. They need to sort things out.
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Well, this is lowkey sad. I feel for the husband. But I also want to ask him that is getting all stressed out at work really worth it. I hope he gets a heavy-duty bonus after this project gets delivered because after reading this story, it fully sounds like he worked his butt off on it for the last 6 months. The weakness had reached the point that he couldn’t even walk. I personally think the request he made to his wife to give him a day off was totally valid. His doctor said he had to take a week off but OP only asked for a full day worth of rest. And he promised her the same in exchange as well. After the agreement, she still decided to wake him up the very next day at 6:30 in the morning. That is not nice, woman.
OP you were NTA for breaking down.
OP thought they need to share some more details and so they did. Here they are.
15. The only reason why OP did not want to be woken up was his requirement to get proper sleep so he could at least function the next morning.
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16. Some extra detail.
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17. The children are with the wife till 5. OP then reaches home and the couple takes care of them together.
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18. So the mom does quite a lot of work at the house.
I wonder why OP used inverted commas for “cleaning”.
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19. According to OP, the division of work is not unfair.
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20. OP did offer his wife a day off because it would’ve been unfair not to let her rest for a full day if he gets to do it.
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Here are some of the comments on the story:
21. She was getting ready for the gym at the time she woke OP up.
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22. He only asked for 1 day off. I don’t think it is tough to alter your routine for a single day.
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23. Even this person declared OP NTA.
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24. 1/5th of the rest and the wife still had problems.
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25. Couldn’t she have delayed her gym for 15 minutes and dropped the kids off that day? Could’ve simply adjusted that time by leaving the gym 15 minutes later. Altering the routine is not a sin.
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