Time is the most precious commodity of all.
Time can never be turned back and that means you can’t technically reverse aging. While some people naturally have great genetics which means they look young enough to be a teenager when they are 40 while others might look a bit older than their age. However, whatever it may be, older doesn’t automatically equate to ugliness. Even in the media women specifically are pressured to look as young as possible even though there should be nothing wrong with looking your age.
But this is the reality we live in. One facet of life where ‘conventional beauty’ shouldn’t be a big factor is when it comes to your partner. I am not saying attraction doesn’t play a big part in choosing to start a relationship with someone. But when you have been married for decades and have kids together, then it should matter less than their habits, personality, and the overall family. However, for some people, they can’t look past the fact that their partner is getting older. As is evident by the following post.
Right from the start, you can tell that he calls her gorgeous in the past tense which says a lot.
She might have been going through a lot of things which apparently makes her look old enough to be a Grandma.
Talking from experience, this sort of thing can hurt one’s feeling no matter how much you make of show of it not affecting you.
However, things continued and he assumed that his wife had ‘gotten over it’.
But that is when it happened again and she simply couldn’t take it anymore.
She broke down in front of her husband hoping that he would understand and listen.
Rather than that, he thought it wasn’t just a big deal.
Nobody likes to look older than they are other than teenagers wanting to get into a bar.
He also commented later on which clearly shows what he really thinks.
I’ve been trying to help her out. I know she’s probably going through menopause and my friends have told me platforms like Oprah have had health experts tell women to diligently apply estrogen cream on their face and bodies to look and feel younger but when I offered to buy some for my wife to help with her physical insecurities she just yells at me.
Even in the comments, people were quick to ask him for more information about what is really happening in their relationship.
And many could glean a little from what information was given in the post.
There is a time a place for jokes and this wasn’t it.
It wasn’t as if she made a scene. Somethings are out of our control so it is perfectly fine to wanna lean on your partner for support.
YTA- she is tired. Not just tired looking. Three kids will wear you out. Especially over the last year. It has been unbelievably difficult as the parent that mainly deals with child care. Have you tried to help your kids with new math? I had to use youtube for an hour to figure it out! That crap is stupid. Menopause is no freaking joke. You literally wake up in a pool of your own sweat. It is horrible. I won’t even go into the anxiety issues. She should go see her doc if things get bad.
So she feels unattractive and you aren’t attracted to her ( which she picks up on), do something nice for her. Give her a day at the spa if it is open. The full works, massage, facial, hair, nails, and most importantly no kids and no phone. She will feel more confident and energetic. Just give her real time away from the Kids. Yes, you go to work but your wife is with them 24/7. I am sure she is at the end of her tether. She is the mother of your children and it is apparent that it is taking a physical toll on your wife. Help her! –Disastrous-Draft4717
And others made some suggestions on how he should have dealt with it and how he can ‘fix’ this.
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