Employee Thinks His Wife Crossed A Line By Directly Asking His Boss To Take Leaves For Him

Planning a surprise trip for your partner can be a delightful gesture for a special occasion, while some individuals would be over the moon after getting the surprise, some individuals may not appreciate surprises involving significant expenses without prior discussion so it’s important to consider their preferences and involve them in the decision-making process. In such cases, it’s wise to surprise your partner with the idea and budget for the trip, allowing them to participate in choosing the destination and contributing to the expenses. Balancing the preferences of both of you ensures a more enjoyable experience for both parties.

However, a recent post on r/relationship_advice highlights a situation where a husband felt his wife overstepped boundaries in planning a surprise trip for Christmas when she contacted his boss to take leave on particular days for their vacation. The husband felt uncomfortable with this direct approach, believing that work and personal matters should remain separate.

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1. The OP expressed dissatisfaction with his wife’s actions, which were intended as a surprise for Christmas.

2. OP’s wife surprised him with a four-day trip vacation as a Christmas gift.

3. To confirm the holiday dates, OP’s wife directly contacted his colleague and boss to ask for holidays without involving OP.

4. OP was not happy about this doing of his wife and believed that she should have consulted him before directly going to his boss.

Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this.

5. I would be over the moon if someone planned anything like this for me.

6. Those who have it, don’t appreciate it.

7. Don’t make a big deal out of it….just live the moment.

8. OP should communicate with his wife for future endeavours.

9. Someone else did something similar for a co-worker and the entire team was excited for him.

10. There is a vast difference between a good relationship and a professional relationship.

11. Why would anyone’s spouse have their spouse’s boss’s number?

12. Don’t make it weird for everyone..just enjoy your surprise OP.

13. Overthinking can ruin things sometimes.

14. It is weird how different offices can be.

15. Being happy in someone else happiness seems like a reward too.

16. Some Redditors thought that OP’s wife might have crossed the boundary and should have talked to OP first.

17. OP’s wife was so genuine for this..not at all malicious.

18. It is better to talk to her about the issue after the trip and not ruin the moment right now.

19. OP should just go and relax on the vacation, instead of thinking so much.

20. OP can check with his boss about his reaction on this matter and judge from his answer, instead of making speculations.

Understandably, the OP feels his wife crossed a boundary, but it’s essential for him not to overreact, especially if he believes his coworker and boss didn’t mind being contacted by his wife. Instead of escalating the situation, he could gently approach the subject with his wife and express his feelings. He might suggest that future surprises or gifts of this nature should be coordinated through him to avoid any discomfort or misunderstanding in the future. Communication and understanding each other’s perspectives are key to resolving such issues amicably. Let us know your thoughts in the comments section.

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