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In this story, the central issue revolves around the strained relationship between a parent and their own parents, the grandparents of their two children, aged 3 and 6. The grandparents have made it clear that they disapprove of the parent’s choices, particularly having children at a young age, and have chosen not to be involved in their grandchildren’s lives.
When the parent faces a practical emergency – a flat tire – and reaches out to the grandparents for help in picking up the children from daycare and school to avoid costly late fees, the grandparents refuse. They assert that they will not assist with childcare and expect the parents to find a solution.
This refusal results in a heated argument between the parent and the grandparents. The parent’s sister takes a different perspective, believing that the parent may be expecting too much from the grandparents by assuming they should act as free babysitters and she even called OP an a-hole. Keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end.
1. OP has two kids and OP’s parents are not involved grandparents they even made it clear that if OP wants to meet them he has to meet them without kids
2. OP said that they are great-grandparents to his sister’s kids but the reason they are not interactive with OP’s kid is that OP had his first kid when he was 18 and they didn’t approve of it
3. OP got a flat tire and he needed to pick up the kids from daycare, and school if he appears late to pick his kids up the daycare will charge him $5 for every minute he is late. So OP decided to call his mother and asked if she could grab his kids because it was an emergency.
4. OP’s mother refused to help and this resulted in a heated argument, OP sisters think OP is wrong and they aren’t his free babysitters.
5. This user thinks OP’s parents are massive A-holes and he shouldn’t ask for help from them as they have shown they aren’t willing to try
6. This user said OP is NTA moreover, the user wanted to know if OP has any backup plan
7. Exactly, this user is right. OP shouldn’t interact with them at all as they have shown their true colors to OP multiple times.
8. NTA
9. This user suggested OP find alternative methods for the future rather than asking them for help
10. It’s the perfect advice for OP he needs to build his own chosen family
11. They are horrible grandparents, to be honest.
12. This user made a solid point by saying, “They are not free babysitters but they are not grandparents in any traditional sense”.
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13. This user is kinda right, what are your thoughts on this?
14. OP needs to realize that he needs to form a bond with people who would be willing to help him if he’s in a situation like this, and he really needs to stop relying on his parents.
15. OP needs to have a circle of good friends who are always willing to help
16. They have shown him multiple times who they are
17. OP needs to stop relying on his parents period!
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