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OP became the legal guardian of his niece after her mother’s death, but the caregiving duties strained his marriage. An argument ensued when OP’s wife discovered her passport hidden among his belongings. Following these events, OP decided to ask his wife and niece to leave their home. They moved in with OP’s parents, and the relationship continued to deteriorate.
Eventually, OP chose to end the marriage and initiated divorce proceedings. He cited his wife’s unilateral decisions, lack of communication, and her actions as the primary reasons for the breakup, as they had taken a toll on their relationship and left him feeling unsupported and betrayed.
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OP’s husband recently became the legal guardian of his sister’s daughter after her mother passed away, despite OP’s reservations, assuring he’d provide full care.
OP and their husband married after 15 years together. OP left a demanding career to be a stay-at-home mom, later taking a remote part-time job.
SIL was a nurse who quit her job to care for her daughter full time.
OP’s husband claims to do most of the caregiving, but as OP works part-time from home, OP handles it mainly, facing emotional exhaustion due to my niece’s frequent meltdowns.
One night, the husband’s late work shift left OP to prepare dinner for their picky niece. She threw a plate at OP and injured her and the husband couldn’t return immediately.
When he came back he called OP bad names. OP went to her mom’s later.
OP apologized for her departure, but upon her return, she revealed she had reacquired her demanding job with travel, reminding him of his guardian promise.
OP asks AITA in this situation.
Many asked for an update, but I regret to say things haven’t improved. Husband hired a special needs caregiver for weekdays 9-6 after taking days off.
She canceled due to an emergency. My husband had a vital meeting and took my car keys to ensure I looked after his niece.
I needed to travel but couldn’t find my passport, so I called the non-emergency helpline. They found it hidden in his gym bag, which is a crime.
I refused to press charges. He wanted me home for a social welfare visit but knew I’d leave. I kicked them out, warning of police involvement, and planned divorce.
The welfare visit went south as neither OP nor the niece lived there. The social worker knew about the recent incident, leaving a bad impression.
He moved to his parents’ small apartment, which doesn’t meet welfare norms. He asked for another chance, wanting to stay with his niece.
He pleaded for forgiveness, proposing they move in and seek couples counseling. OP refused, unable to trust him, and suggested his parents or state care for the niece.
Months of anger erupted; OP blamed him for not consulting her before taking the niece in, ignoring her concerns, and taking her keys.
He hid her passport, and OP lamented how things could have been different if he hadn’t made the wrong choices at her expense. OP told him to leave, and it was over.
People expected a happier ending, but it is what it is. OP will begin divorce proceedings soon, taking a much-needed break.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time to see what Redditors said about this. Read till the end to see other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article, too.
It is not just one mistake; it never was.
What about them being selfish by neglecting her emotional needs?
Poor girl had no sin.
Typical men.
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