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Some parents secretly have a favourite child.
Favouritism between parents and their children is a complex and often taboo subject that can have long-term consequences for family dynamics. Many parents deny playing favourites, but subtle behaviours and unequal treatment can have long-term consequences for their children’s self-esteem and relationships. To avoid negative consequences, parents should be aware of their actions and strive to treat all of their children equally. Open communication and addressing any instances of favouritism can help improve family relationships and create a more harmonious environment for all parties involved.
However, even if parents go to great lengths to ensure that all of their children have equal opportunities, the children will often accuse them of favouritism. A little competition among siblings is normal, but it can cause a lot of emotional stress if it turns into entitlement. For example, learning that your parents have been saving your sister’s rent for years in order to return it to her once she moves out may be upsetting for you. Especially if you’re dealing with financial problems. However, this does not mean you are entitled to the money.
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OP ended up on Reddit when her son asked her to help him when he was having financial problems.
OP’s daughter lives with her even though she is 29 since the economy isn’t great.
OP’s daughter does pay her parent’s rent monthly and isn’t dependent on her parents.
OP and his husband decided to save the rent she gives them and have been putting that money aside for years.
When OP’s son found out about the money, they wanted to have a discussion with OP about needing help.
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They apparently want OP to give them the money she has saved up for her daughter.
OP refused, but she did offer to gift him some money, so he stood on his feet again, but this got him angry.
The son tried again, saying that they could build that fund up again since his sister wasn’t going to move out anytime soon, but OP wasn’t having it.
This led OP’s son to accuse her of favouring her daughter more than him.
OP made it clear that she had given him the same option of staying with them after college, but he was the one who had refused.
This has obviously caused a bit of family drama, and the OP isn’t sure whether she did the right thing.
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I would feel bad for OP’s son if he had moved out because OP and her husband wanted him to, but that is not the case here. They have offered him the same opportunity to live with them and save money. So he could have chosen the option he preferred. However, he chose to move out, and now he must act like an adult. Not only that, but OP offered to give him some money, so it’s not as if his parents have abandoned him and refused to help him. He and his wife seem entitled to me.
People in the comments were 100% on her side.
It is her money, after all.
The son and his wife sound like entitled people.
I have to agree with this commenter.
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I don’t see any sort of favouritism going on here.
While it is rent money, it is the OP and her husband’s choice what they want to do with it.
To be fair, OP did offer to help him financially.
It is clear that they are being greedy and want the amount that was saved by his parents for his sister.
He will not stop here if the OP gives in to this instance.
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What are your thoughts on how the OP handled the situation? Do you think OP is playing favourites? Do you think her son is misunderstanding the situation? Have you ever dealt with a similar situation? If so, please leave a comment below to let us know. Also, don’t forget to share this story with your friends so they can add their thoughts as well.
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