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With the constantly increasing inflation, as a young adult, saving money is paramount, making shared apartments increasingly popular nowadays. They offer bill splitting and assistance with household chores, presenting a win-win situation. However, living with someone requires understanding, tolerance, and compromise, as conflicts can arise from sharing chores, deciding on pets, financial discussions, and setting boundaries.
A Reddit post reflects this scenario, where u/[deleted] took in a friend after he lost his job. When the friend secured a new job and became an official roommate, complaints ensued. The friend raised issues, including disagreements over initial agreements like not having guests over due to lack of space. This disagreement escalated into a serious argument, as the roommate felt entitled to bring guests as he paid his share. Along with that the roommate also wants to keep a pet dog but as OP already has two pet cats he is against this notion. Unfortunately, neither party is willing to compromise.
Follow the unfolding of this story below.
Source: Reddit
1. OP questions if is he an AH for asking his roommate to compromise with the situation after he started complaining.
2. OP’s friend started to live with him in his one-bedroom apartment after his friend lost his job. After getting the job back his friend officially leased the place with him.
3. Everything was going well at the start, but recently Brian has been voicing complaints regarding some of the things and rules in the apartment.
4. OP’s friend also wants to get a pet dog but OP is reluctant to do so as he already has two pet cats and having a dog would be too chaotic. So he suggested Brian compromise with the situation until the lease ends.
5. Brian and their mutual friends think OP should be a bit flexible regarding the complaints which makes OP rethink his decisions.
6. The flat has only one bedroom so OP and his friend share all the furniture and space in the apartment.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this.
7. Doesn’t seem like the two should be living together anymore.
8. Compromising doesn’t seem like a bad option if it is hard to find a good living spot.
9. The friend wants to change the rules that are already set in.
10. Verdict is OP is NTA.
11. In this Redditor’s opinion, the OP is not the A-hole (NTA), as they find all of OP’s actions perfectly reasonable.
12. Both parties need to compromise, and then consider parting ways to potentially maintain the friendship.
13. He should be allowed to do everything in his personal space.
14. They don’t have separate rooms…they both share the same room and furniture.
15. Something like choosing beggars???
16. When he was living there for free, it was your flat and your rules. Now that he’s paying half, why should it still only be your rules when it’s half his flat too?
17. OP’s friends can accommodate him if they think OP’s demands are unreasonable.
18. One bedroom? Absolutely not!!
19. Is OP moving out of the flat one of the options being considered?
20. OP can’t move out because he was living there before Brian. Plus even if he did, he would be moving most of the furniture of the house as he was the one who furnished it.
Navigating conflicting requests can be challenging, but finding a compromise that satisfies both parties is often the best approach. In OP’s case, some commenters argue that neither roommate is in the wrong, suggesting that they may not be compatible as roommates anymore.
Alternatively, others believe that both OP and the roommate are at fault, considering their issues manageable if they are willing to compromise. Do let us know your thoughts on this issue in the comments section below.
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