Malaika
Women can get spooked by a lot.
And that is not at all a dig on how women are scared cats because that would be a complete lie. However, we have been conditioned since we were kids to ‘safeguard ourselves’, ‘wear modest clothes’, ‘never be alone at night’ and ‘stick to brightly lit areas.’ These are just some of the things that we have to do just so we can get home safe every day. This obviously does not apply to everyone as every country is different and it can depend on ont eh area you live in but for many, this is the truth of their existence.
That is probably why this Twitter user decided to share a thread geared towards men so they can also learn a few ‘tricks’ on how they can make women feel safe. This does not at all mean that all men are out to harm women in any way. Quite the opposite actually as this can let a girl who is alone at night that she has nothing to be afraid about when a guy is just minding his own business. So scroll on below and take a look for yourself.
Source: Twitter
She has just a few things that can make a huge difference.
Many people have started doing this which is always a good thing.
We all need to come together and stand up for each other as being silent sometimes is the same thing as taking part.
We all know that moment when you start sweating just because a guy is matching your walking speed in the middle of the night.
They might not even realize that what they are doing is making you afraid and they might just be minding their own business but that does not make it any less terrifying.
It is a big deal and we need to stop conveying this behavior as ‘normal’ or in any way ‘okay’.
Just let the other person know that you are behind them.
So you don’t spook them when you eventually come up in front of them or alongside them.
Many Twitter users were keen to join in and ask questions.
And many had their own tips to add to the thread.
Letting them know outright verbally might be an option as well.
We do try our best to ‘protect ourselves but we all need to pitch in to end this.
Even if you are just admiring how well they are doing or just being friendly, it can come off as creepy.
It depends on the situation and everyone will have their own opinion about this.
It isn’t about being sensitive, it is about how it has been drilled into our brain how we were responsible as we were sending ‘the wrong signals.’
Whatever you want to do, just let the person in front of you know that you are there.
If you or anyone you know has experienced something similar and don’t know how to ask for help or talk about it. This website is a great resource for anyone wanting to start their journey of self-recovery.
These things may seem like a lot but if you break it down, it really doesn’t add any stress to your day.
Some of the advice even came as a surprise to me but they aren’t wrong.
It’s the little things that can make the difference between someone wanting to run away and being comfortable when going for a walk.
this can be a huge help, I know I greatly appreciate it.
Would you like to add anything else to this thread? Do you think this is too much? Comment down below and let us know.