Family relationships are even more complicated than relationships in general. Children’s attitudes and behaviors are shaped by these relationships, especially parent-child relationships. An individual’s formative years affect his or her attitude and personality for the rest of their life. It is for this reason that parent-child relationships should be based on mutual respect and understanding-but many parents seem to think differently. Parents are just humans after all, so there is no picture-perfect way to raise a child. A person can, however, judge whether bad parenting is taking place in certain circumstances. A person has a difficult time sharing how they really feel, especially when they are in a position of authority. Some children hide their emotions from their parents out of fear that their parents will dismiss them, or in a general sense that doing so will cause more harm than good.
Is there a right or wrong approach to parenting – why do children feel this way? Are the parents the only ones to blame, or does the child play a part in it, too? It is a mother, in this case, who turns to Reddit to ask if she is an A-hole for blaming her child instead of acknowledging her own shortcomings. Keep on scrolling down to read the full post and we will see you at the end of the article.
1. Is she the A-hole? keep on scrolling down to find out
2. OP tells us that she has always had a rough relationship with her oldest daughter
3. She also confesses that she has been very hard and strict with her compared to her younger daughter
4. OP was trying to understand why her daughter is depression
5. OP and her husband did not talk to her for 2 weeks.
6. OP told her daughter that whatever she and her husband did was so that she can have a better future
7. OP shouldn’t have said this
8. OP’s daughter felt that her mom is saying that she has a weak personality
9. Well at least she is admitting some of her mistakes now
10. OP’s husband thinks that OP shouldn’t have brought this up
11. Is she the A-hole? let us know down below
12. She admits that her younger sister was given more freedom
13. That’s exactly what OP’s daughter heard
14. True what OP said was very insulting indeed, how can you say that to your own child?
15. Exactly difference isn’t the daughters it’s how OP treated them
16. Exactly why does your apology comes with a “yes but”?
17. This Redditor thinks that OP and her husband are the main reason her daughter is like this
18. Do you think OP was abusive to her kids?
19. Exactly stop throwing little sister in older sister’s face
20. Is OP just looking for validation so that she can feel better about herself?
21. Poor kids for real
22. This is literally what OP said to her daughter
23. Exactly forgiveness comes after admission of guilt and that cant be conditional
24. Do you guys think that this parenting style has affected her other daughter too?
25. This Redditor thinks that the younger daughter watched her older sister struggle and realized nothing she would do would ever be good enough for her parents.
26. Imagine not talking to your child for 2 weeks what kind of parents are OP and her husband?
27. This Redditor had a similar mother and this is what he had to say about it
28. Basically Op found out that she was being abusive and still continued to be abusive
29. Exactly once you know that you are wrong just stop arguing
30. OP is the A-hole
31. This is exactly what YTA stands for in this case.
This was it, folks, we think that OP and her husband are the real A-holes OP admitted that she treated her older daughter and younger daughter differently and no parent should ever do that. Let us know what you think about it down below in the comment section and make sure to like and share this article with your friends and family and stay tuned for more content like this with Defused. Thank You!
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