Unfortunately, many of us have been in horrific circumstances with people who will not take “no” for an answer. Being rejected is a serious blow to their self-esteem, thus they continue to pursue women who have previously rejected them. This is exactly what happened to Shelby, a tiktoker, when a guy tried to approach her on social media and kept complimenting her. But when Shelby said “I’m not really interested or available at the moment” the guy immediately started fat-shaming her. While most people have realized that body-shaming is never acceptable, there are still people who go out of their way to make the other person feel awful. In an interview, Shelby said, “men need to learn that women don’t owe them kindness or their attention.”
What is more interesting is that the guy was not even single. He had a Fiance, and Shelby shared the screenshots of their conversations with his fiance. Read below to find out what happened next!
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Shelby, a TikTok-er, related her tale about how a man approached her and, after being rejected, began to fat-shame her.
Shelby politely turned down this guy’s advances!
Okay… That took a turn!
She did a good job putting this guy back in his place!
“I think SOME men believe they are owed female attention for the littlest things. I also believe that men don’t have much accountability for their own actions until they are called out on their bad behavior,” Shelby told in an interview that these people need to be shown that their actions have consequences. She believes that nobody can directly change people and it’s not her job to change men for the better.
“I think SOME men believe they are owed female attention for the littlest things. I also believe that men don’t have much accountability for their own actions until they are called out on their bad behavior,” Shelby told in an interview that these people need to be shown that their actions have consequences. According to her, she is not responsible for changing men for the better and that anybody can have any impact on people and their ability to change!
“People, if they change, change on their own time and for their own reasons. I didn’t share with his fiancée expecting him to change, I was hopeful I was helping someone see his true colors before making a life-long commitment to someone she may not know acts this way,” said Shelby in reference to her goals!
Shelby stated that she regularly gets direct messages from men and she mostly chooses to ignore them. “Most take the ‘not interested’ well and move on with their days. The reason this was even shared with the fiancée and then the internet, is because this type of man scares me—and should scare others,” Shelby explained.
Let’s look at the original video!
“He didn’t understand the meaning of ‘no,’ and my ‘not interested’ didn’t stop him from continuing to harass me. Men need to learn that women don’t owe them kindness or their attention.”
In her own words, Shelby stated that she has been creating content for a medical condition that affects 1 in 5 women called PCOS or polycystic ovary syndrome. “A lot of PCOS symptoms can make someone feel unattractive or less feminine,” she said, referring to weight gain, hair loss, acne, and other symptoms. “I try to show others PCOS doesn’t define their beauty or worth.”
“For every hate message or comment, I have 10 messages from someone saying my content has helped them love themselves a little bit more or fight for themselves a little harder—and that makes it worth every troll comment in the world.”
People wanted her to tell his fiance and when she did the response was this!
The fiance was definitely shocked to say the least!
Shelby got 46.8k and 34.3k likes on each of her videos and certainly gained a lot of recognition due to these videos!
Shelby says she’s not yet aware of whether the woman broke up with the “nice guy” or not but she was supposedly thankful for being told about her fiance and his reality! Though Shelby later said that the woman and her fiancé ended up blocking her on social media. “I bet she stays with him,” she wrote on TikTok.
Here’s the complete footage of the ‘talk’ with the fiancée.
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Shelby produced another follow-up video discussing body shaming.
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TikToker Cassidy Lane believes that people will never stop judging others based on their looks. And she emphasized the fact that people don’t get a hall pass for treating others badly just because they were rejected.
“Somehow we’ve built an entire society that caters to a small margin of bodies. Think about airplane seats. I think about clothing stores, a lot of them don’t even go past a large sometimes, but the average woman in America right now is about a 2X. A lot of people who have never been fat don’t realize when you go to the doctor as a fat person it doesn’t matter what is wrong with you they will usually ignore it and tell you to lose weight,” Cassidy told in an interview.
“I had been having stomach issues for about a year that were preventing me from going to school or work. By the time I finally found a doctor that would listen to me, and not just prescribe weight loss, they figured out I had a really serious stomach ulcer,” she revealed.
“I have found that being vulnerable on TikTok and showing my really low lows as well as my highs has apparently resonated with a lot of people. I think it just goes back to the power of shared experience. The ability to look at someone else and say, ‘Hey I do that too/I’ve been through that too.’ It’s a really powerful thing,” Cassidy said.
“Every single time I read a comment about how somebody ate today because of me, or loved themselves a little bit more, or wore their first bikini because of one of my videos, it truly is the best feeling in the world. I wish I could respond to every single person that stops by and leaves a comment on my page. Because they’re so supportive and kind. Being a content creator is definitely not something I ever knew I needed in my life until I had it,” Cassidy explained that TikTok content creators have the power to improve people’s lives.
Well… This update is quite surprising!
The TikTok community supported the Tiktoker and said that this kind of behavior is not acceptable!
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