Wife Overhears Husband Trash-Talking Her With His Family On Vacation, She Leaves On Spot

When a new spouse joins the family, they become an integral part of it. That implies that they go to any events that bring the family together, such as dinners, vacations, and birthdays. It makes reasonable to extend a warm welcome to a new member of the family. If that can’t be assumed, something is wrong. In today’s “Am I the A$$hole?” post, the OP described how she recently got married and wanted to go on a family vacation with her husband’s family to get to know them better. Even though her husband’s hesitation about it is quite dubious, he eventually agreed to let her go. All was OK until she overheard her mother-in-law enquiring as to why she had even made the journey in the first place, to which her husband replied that he didn’t even want to bring her but that she had been extremely insistent about coming. It appears that this family didn’t exactly embrace her. To find out what happened, scroll down.

1. Heres how the story started. You must read it till the end

2. OP and his husband were married for some time but she did not know his family much, when asked to go to a vacation which his family planned, the husband showed reluctance

Font - My husband goes on annual vacations with his family. I'm on okay terms with them but since we've only been married for a short time and I don't see his family much, we still have that barrier that keeps is from being completely comfortable around each other. His family arranged for the vacation last week. I out of curiosity asked if I could come. My husband felt hasitant but I told him it'd be a great opportunities to get to know his family better.

To be honest, it’s really weird that he hesitated in the first place. OP is his own wife! It should be a no-brainer that she comes on family trips. But we don’t know what was he upto, tight? So let’s read it till the end.

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3. On the vacation, OP heard his husband and his family talking ill of her, how she was pushy in coming to the vacation which really shook her

Font - He agreed to take me and his family were surprised to see me but still welcomed me. On the 3rd day of the vacation. His dad, mom, brothers and spouses were all sitting at a table outside talking while I was preparing a fruit salad. As I was making my way back I overheard my MIL say "...did she really had nowhere else to spend the weekend?". At first I had no idea who she was talking about so I kept on walking, but stopped once I overheard my husband say "I KNOW!!!! And I didn't want to br

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4. OP went back home without informing anybody. Her husband contacted and put it all on her that it was not okay to go back and she shouldn’t have had come in the first place, it all gave a bad picture

Font - I quietly booked a ticket and went home on the first plane. He called and texted but I didn't respond anything other than let him know I was home. He got back and went off on me saying what I did was disrespectful and juvenile. I told him I overheard the conversation he had with his mom but he said that I was wrong for eavesdropping and that his family will warm up to me on their terms so I should stop pushing to be around that when they don't feel comfortable with it. Basically saying it

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This is totally a worthless cause. His husband should have had understood that his wife got hurt. The way he was talking about it all was not okay. Instead of blaming her, he must have took a step of sanity. OP was totally right to come back as she was totally unwelcomed there.

5. Now OP thinks she messed it all up and ask for Redditors take on this

Smile - I think that I might have messed this up and someehat ruined it for them as well.

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Let’s see what the Redditors have to say on this. NTA or YTA?

6. Now this is an important question

Rectangle - stacity 3 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] ΝΤΑ Does he even like you?

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7. Exactly that’s what I was thinking about

Font - SamSpayedPI 3 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [83] ΝΤΑ Now that you're married (it doesn't matter how short a time) family vacations include you, full stop. You should be expected to go with your husband.

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8. I feel sorry but this is true

Font - Jlpippen 3 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA. This is toxic. He trash talked you to his family who were being nasty about you, tried to gaslight you and insists you continue putting up with his their treatment and let them have their own way. He's your HUSBAND and his family are still treating you like this. You deserve better than these people. You deserve better than HIM.

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9. Not the a-hole, hence proved

Font - Boring-Conclusion-78 · 3 hr. ago NTA. Why are you in a relationship with someone who treats you so poorly?

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10. Totally NTA

Rectangle - misslo7183 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] NTA. Other spouses are welcome but not you? What on earth is going on here??

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11. These are some important questions that OP need to think about instead of questioning herself

Font - Stegosaurus505. 2 hr. ago Partassipant [1] When you get married you and your spouse become a family, everyone else is extended family. He seems not to have gotten the memo and prioritizes his parents and siblings over you. Why were the siblings' spouses there but they acted like it was odd and inconvenient for you to be there? Why did you have to ask for permission to go? Why doesn't your husband want you around?

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12. A married woman deserves all the respect from his man and that does not need to be debated. Not defending your woman is a big red flag

Font - amelonlord 3 hr. ago NTA. It's not like you've been dating for 2 weeks, you're married! And as I understand the husband's brothers brought their spouses. How else are you going to get to know the family. And to be honest the fact that your husband didn't defend you and was also talking with them behind your back is kind of a red flag.

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