When a new spouse joins the family, they become an integral part of it. That implies that they go to any events that bring the family together, such as dinners, vacations, and birthdays. It makes reasonable to extend a warm welcome to a new member of the family. If that can’t be assumed, something is wrong. In today’s “Am I the A$$hole?” post, the OP described how she recently got married and wanted to go on a family vacation with her husband’s family to get to know them better. Even though her husband’s hesitation about it is quite dubious, he eventually agreed to let her go. All was OK until she overheard her mother-in-law enquiring as to why she had even made the journey in the first place, to which her husband replied that he didn’t even want to bring her but that she had been extremely insistent about coming. It appears that this family didn’t exactly embrace her. To find out what happened, scroll down.