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Life is quite unpredictable somehow, we can say it is just like a box of chocolate, you never know what you will get. At some point, life has to offer uncertainty and there’s no doubt that modern technology played a leading role in predicting what are you gonna get these days. And it has been proved one too many times. Living life means that it will always throw you curves we just have to keep fouling them off so we can be prepared for anything.
Often it goes the same for relationships Particularly when you make a threat as a deception only to get smacked with a curveball right in the face as a response. Relationships are never easy you have to compromise a lot to run it smoothly but sadly not everyone is successful in it because when deception is involved the curve ball is gonna hit you in the face hard it’s quite obvious.
So what are you waiting for keep on scrolling down below to see what happened in this particular case and the end you guys know, you have to tell us if OP is an A-hole here or not. Make sure you read it till the end otherwise you are not going to get the whole point here.
1. You can always post anything on Reddit and people make sure you get the best solution, keep on scrolling let’s dive deeper.
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2. Seems like a happy and supportive relationship, and that is how you struggle to make things go perfectly, let’s see what happened next.
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3. In short OP is trying to do everything she can. She even planned the funeral by herself
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4. The poor kid has to go through a lot and he’s only 12 years old
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5. That’s a commitment of at least 6 years and it’s not such a small deal
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6. They are going through a struggling phase, but OP has to do everything according to financial status, right?
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7. Yes it’s a fact and it cannot be denied
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8. Always go for the things that your heart and brain allow you to do, one should always see if he or she is comfortable regarding that decision despite relationships family, and all.
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9. Derek is also going through a crucial phase of life and we cannot blame him entirely
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11. Now I truly feel sad for the OP
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12. Let us know guys
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This was only the start, though. Then after, the post was revised twice. The very first time, OP provided additional detail on the calculations she made concerning the contribution of their small half-bro to their family. There are no perfect answers in this situation because they would have to spend $3,000 just to move to a larger apartment and pay an additional $1,000 a month.
All of this is taken into consideration considering that the two committed to helping one another throughout their academic careers, with OP obviously benefiting from his support and returning the favor since he had only begun his four-year degree. The only issue is that his expenditures were far more than hers had been $1,500 more accurately. She is also covering the cost of the parent’s funeral. In case you were thinking, $10,000. So, for this to operate at all, a compromise had to be reached.
According to the facts above they both helped each other through their bad times but considering the conditions now, what can she even do? I mean it’s gonna cost a lot plus she doesn’t even want her brother to move in with them. Obviously, everybody has their own privacy and the fact OP never had any place safe to stay, that kid can still have that if he starts living with her aunt.
13. And it is clear that OP is going to pay a lot more than he did
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14. OP did some math here
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15. One has to see his or her financial conditions to make a decision like this, what do you think?
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16. Yes it is not comparable
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17. Keep on scrolling
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18. OP is trying to do her best
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19. No one’s money is your money even if that person is your wife, dad, or mom it doesn’t matter. The only money that belongs to you is the one you earned by yourself.
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20. Everybody has their own choices to make and we should always respect them not force them on anyone
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21. It is quite clear what OP is trying to say, she just wants what’s best for her and Derek. Plus who else is gonna cover these expenses if the brother doesn’t get a part-time job?
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22. Are you kidding me, Derek? She did everything she could, and now we all hope that she gets a nice sweet place for herself soon.
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23. She is still helping him and making sure he gets a job soon, what a nice lady OP is.
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24. Yeah he would have done that, we can expect that from Derek seeing the facts above. Well, now she can at least adopt a cat.
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People in the Reddit community expressed their opinions about this. She made a major commitment on many stages, and there are only a few options that aren’t options for the guy, so that’s a dead end, she did the math, and there are only certain options that aren’t options for the guy, so that’s a dead end, and some didn’t sometimes agree with having to pay the $10K for the funeral, which suggested that she could be the victim in all of this.
And some also said that it is difficult to fault the man for wanting what is best for his half-brother and for honoring their parents by taking on the role of guardian. He has the proper intentions in mind. But seeing the conditions it wouldn’t have gone along perfectly. As for the audience, we would declare that OP here is not an A-hole! She did everything she could have but some things are not to be compromised for anyone. So it was best for them to part ways.
Whichever the reason, the post has received a lot of attention, receiving close to 9,000 upvotes and winning a few Reddit awards. Check out the article here and don’t forget to like and share it with your friends and family. Stay tuned with Defused for more content.