Boyfriend Aggressively Rejects A Gift GF Bought To Commemorate His Late Dog

Mental health issues are not an excuse to mistreat others.

In a society where mental health is increasingly recognised and understood, it is critical to address the myth that mental illness can excuse or justify harmful behaviour. While mental illness can certainly influence certain behaviours, it is vital to recognise personal responsibility and the need for accountability, regardless of one’s mental health. It is unfair to dismiss the impact of mental illness on individuals, but it is also important to keep in mind that everyone has a choice in how they deal with their difficulties. We must continue to hold people accountable for their actions, even if they have mental health issues.

However, many people use their mental health issues as an excuse to behave unfairly towards others. Now I understand how certain personality disorders can alter your personality. And in that case, empathy from those around you is critical, but that doesn’t mean you don’t bear personal responsibility. In this story, the relationship between OP and her boyfriend is complex, with many issues between them, including those mentioned above.

You can scroll down to find out exactly what triggered the entire drama.

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Losing a pet is one of the most horrible feelings ever.

That’s why it is imperative for family members to support each other.

And try to comfort the individual in question as much as possible.

While it is true that grief can warp someone’s personality.

It is usually temporary and not at all like what is happening in this story.

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OP just wanted to buy him a gift to make him feel better.

However, she could not get him what she initially promised due to financial constraints.

Rather than being grateful, he was livid.

He never apologised for how he acted, even after he calmed down.

So now she isn’t sure if she is being too sensitive or if he actually was horrible towards her.

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And that is what she asked other Reddit users.

I am well aware that grief can change a person’s personality, at least temporarily. However, it should not be used to justify mistreating your loved ones. Treating others with respect and kindness should always be a priority, regardless of the difficulties one is facing. However, that is not exactly what OP’s boyfriend is doing.

I understand that she should have asked him before changing the gift, but she doesn’t actually ‘owe’ him anything. I truly sympathise with him, but he is clearly emotionally manipulating her, and she needs to speak with someone and seek help.

People in the comments were quite worried about her.

Most if not everyone in the comments were on her side.

Mental health issues aren’t supposed to be used as an excuse.

Is she only staying with him out of pity?

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It is clear that their relationship isn’t healthy.

He needs to calm down and understand that everyone around him is doing the best they can.

Even OP isn’t sure why she is with him.

Losing yourself in the process of pleasing your significant other is never a good thing.

This commenter puts it perfectly.

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What are your thoughts about this relationship? Do you think she should leave as soon as possible, or should she try to resolve things with him? How would you react if you were in this situation? Please let us know in the comments section below, and remember to share this story with your friends so they may voice their own experiences as well.