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Parenting is often described as one of life’s greatest joys, with many individuals dreaming of starting families from a young age. From their endearing smiles to their playful spirits, there are countless reasons to cherish children. Indeed, every aspect of these little humans makes their presence feel like a blessing.
However, parenthood encompasses far more than just affectionate moments; it demands dedication and selflessness. Not everyone is prepared to invest the necessary effort into parenting, leading to potential challenges in their future relationships with their children. Once children reach adulthood and gain independence, the lack of a strong foundation in their relationship with their parents can make it difficult to establish or maintain a meaningful connection.
In a recent post, a user opened up about their strained relationship with their father. Recounting a childhood marked by aggression, emotional abuse, and manipulation from their father, the user shared a recent dilemma. While on vacation abroad, the user’s brother, who resides in their shared home, informed them that their father had requested to stay with them for a week. Uncomfortable with the idea due to their father’s history of taking advantage of others and the strained relationship between them, the user declined the request but felt uneasy about it.
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Source: Reddit
1. OP refused the stay of her homeless and manipulative father at her house.
2. OP doesn’t have a good bond with her father as he always has been aggressive and manipulative. Plus he was never there for her when she needed him.
3. Recently, when OP went on a trip she was contacted by her brother informing her that their father wanted to live with them in their shared home for a week.
4. The OP’s father has not contacted her in over eight years, plus he has always been manipulative and has a history of taking advantage of someone’s good intentions.
5. Despite knowing their relationship, her dad still asked her to stay at her house for a week.
6. OP doesn’t want him to stay over but is confused about how she should refuse her father as he is very manipulative.
7. OP was glad for the advice that was given by other Redditors and that they validated her feelings.
8. OP was not confident that she would be able to refuse him on the call so she directly refused him over the text.
9. OP didn’t pick up his call when he tried to call so resorted to emotionally blackmailing her through text, but nothing could discourage her from her decision.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this.
10. There isn’t any grand secret way of doing it…just straight away refuse.
11. It is not OP’s problem. he is an adult and can figure something out himself.
12. Just a clear consistent ‘No’ would do the work.
13. No need to go zigzag, just give a straight no as an answer.
14. If OP is being afraid of being manipulated, she should refuse to her father through a text or email.
15. Despite knowing your relationship dynamics with your father, your brother should not have asked you in the first place.
16. OP can be unreasonable, no need to have room for discussion.
17. How a person handles a situation or an answer tells wonders about their personality.
18. Stay firm on your stand!
19. OP can resort to any possible means to stop him if her father keeps pestering her.
20. If he didn’t make any contributions in your life, you don’t have to feel sorry for not making any in his life.
OP felt hesitant and somewhat guilty about refusing his old father, but she stood her stand as she exactly knows how manipulative and aggressive her father is. Other Redditors applauded her for that and even advised her to stay rigid and not waver over her decision. Do share your thoughts in the comments section below.
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