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Reddit user u/Pitiful_Shopping_818 struggled to navigate his new reality while grieving, particularly with the added difficulty of raising four children solo. The main source of trouble arose from his two teenage stepchildren, whose behaviour became increasingly problematic. Feeling overwhelmed, he made the difficult decision to temporarily send them to their grandparent’s care so he could better attend to his own two younger children. However, when his family learned of this choice, they disagreed with his decision, leading to further complications.
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1. The OP asks if he is an AH for leaving his rude stepkids at their grandparents’ house after the death of his wife.
2. Since his wife’s sudden passing before last Thanksgiving, OP has struggled with his stepkids, who have ceased to heed his instructions or guidance.
3. As teens, they’ve never held much affection for OP, viewing him solely as their late mother’s husband. While Deena was alive, they respected him.
4. But since her passing, their behaviour has shifted. Their family tells OP to be more patient with them as the children recently lost their mother and it must be tough for them.
5. Despite his efforts, he still finds himself reaching a breaking point as his stepkids’ behaviour continues to challenge him.
6. During a recent supper visit, OP faced a final straw when his stepkids insisted on staying longer despite his need to leave, prompting frustration. In-laws’ intervention compounded his challenges, leaving him overwhelmed.
7. Heeding to their demands he left the house with the two younger ones, but also dropped off the stepkids stuff at their grandparents’ house.
8. With two young children to care for, OP expresses an inability to devote time to managing troublesome teens, finding solace in a clean house and children sleeping soundly through the night.
10. Facing opposition from their relatives, OP remains unfazed, not adhering to the responsibilities of the stepkids as his lack of parental rights on them.
10. The OP’s wife left behind a small insurance money which he decided to divide equally among her four children.
11. OP faces ire from in-laws for relinquishing responsibility for stepchildren, yet prioritizes care for his children, unable to manage additional parental duties.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this.
12. If the OP does not have any legal parental rights over the kids then they should live with their biological father after the demise of their mother.
13. Due to their mother’s death, the children are understandably troubled, prompting the expectation that their biological father should assume a more active role in supporting them during this difficult time.
14. The OP did everything in his power to be there for his stepkids in the grieving period and help them transition back to normal life.
15. Why the kids, who harbour animosity towards OP and for whom OP lacks parental rights, continue residing with him remains unclear.
16. The Redditor expresses sympathy for the OP’s loss and supports their decision not to involve the children during their grieving process negatively.
17. However, they advise the OP to maintain contact with the kids, understanding they might be lashing out due to their own pain.
18. They are not OP’s children, thus their father and grandparents can step up and be there for them.
19. With the children’s father discouraging OP from assuming a parental role, the father now has the opportunity to fulfill the parenting role he has always portrayed himself to be.
20. OP’s decision to have the children live with their biological family seems appropriate, given their evident discomfort with living with OP, as indicated by their problematic behaviour.
OP had no legal parental right over the stepkids and even their biological father didn’t want OP to have one. So it is deemed appropriate that the kids live with their biological family after the demise of their mother. Plus OP also has the responsibility of his two younger children which he has to bear alone now. Do share your opinions on this story in the comments section.
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