Trans women are women.
I know it sounds weird when I say it but so many people need to hear this. While it is true we have come a long way when it comes to the rights of non-binary, transgender, and the whole LGBTQ+ community, we still have a long way to go. It seems people love to stick their noses where they don’t belong. Love is love and gender shouldn’t come into it no matter what.
I mean who would have thought the boy this guy once rejected would turn out to be a woman he fell in love with? There are many things that are not in our control and we should accept them and move on rather than trying to fight it.
Erin first contacted Jared when she was still living as a boy named Aaron.
At three-years-old I was an artistic child, I would always draw myself as a girl all the time. Then I would wear my grandma’s high heels, put mom’s makeup on, and more, all of these are things a little boy wouldn’t do.
I was bullied by both the boys and girls, the guys would ask why I would act like a girl and make fun of me, making me feel less than what I was. -Erin
“Then the girls would see me as a boy and not want to hang out with me.”
It was at the age of 18 when she really started to question who she was.
By then, I was not happy with my born gender as a boy anymore, but I was dumbfounded about how to change, I had no knowledge of the subject or where to begin. -Erin
I thought I was too old to start transitioning until my friend reminded me that life is too short and that I couldn’t keep living my life so unhappy. -Erin
Now she has already gone through 2 years of hormone therapy and breast augmentation.
While still living as a boy, I messaged Jared on Facebook saying “Hey what’s up”, I knew of him and added him on Facebook because he was cute. But he was having no part of it and didn’t seem interested at all, so I decided not to try anymore with him.
It was two years later when he liked one of my pictures on Instagram. By that time I had come out as trans and a woman. I decided I was going to be upfront, so I sent him a message with my number and within five minutes, I got a message from him and we started talking.
The next day was my birthday, I hung out with him and a week later we were dating officially on Facebook and have been together ever since.
Prior to dating Jared, I had been seeing people but nothing serious came about because they were afraid to tell their family or friends. They would tell me they really liked me but couldn’t risk their family knowing I was trans and that was what hurt the most. But Jared didn’t fear that, he told his family that I was trans and everything, he doesn’t care what other people think.
But it hasn’t been all rainbows for the couple, Jared gets a lot of threats for dating a trans woman.
It wasn’t really well known that I was dating a trans woman at first, but when everyone found out, it was a big shocker. I received a lot of death threats online with one guy saying ‘I will beat you up f*** ‘ which kind of sucked and was depressing. It’s always the same rigmarole things like ‘I hate you,’ ‘You’re disgusting,’ ‘You’re dating a dude’ and other comments.
After getting all these death threats we talked about it and decided to ignore everybody, whether they are sending love or hate.
Thankfully I had some messages encouraging us and telling us to ignore the haters. It reminds us that people like that are not worth our time. -Jared