Husband Refuses To Help Ex-Wife’s With Money To Buy Car For Her Stepkids

OP (M52) was with his ex for five years, married for three. Her kids, now in college, were in his life but had a good relationship with their father. The marriage ended two years ago, and OP, who never planned on having kids, had a prenup. He helped the older child plan for college but refused financial help after the divorce. When asked about it, OP explained his assistance was tied to the relationship with the kids’ mom. The daughter got upset, and the ex called OP an asshole for not fulfilling a promise. OP is frustrated, finding it unnecessary to justify why he isn’t financially supporting a child he has little connection with since the divorce.

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OP (M52) and ex were together for five years, married for three. She had two kids, received child support, and they married after she stopped getting alimony.

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OP had a good relationship with ex’s kids who had a father and were on good terms with him. They were civil and well-behaved.

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OP never planned on having kids. Dealing with ex’s children as they were partly grown was an interesting but ultimately satisfying new experience.

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OP’s relationship with their mom ended due to the shift from independent living to constant togetherness. They divorced two years ago.

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OP and ex, older with careers, had a prenup. OP kept his house; she received money from their retirement fund. They occasionally met in their small town.

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The older kid starts college soon. OP once discussed helping with high school plans and a car, but it never materialized.

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As the older kid starts college, OP refused further financial help, stating his assistance was linked to the relationship with their mom. The daughter disagreed, causing tension.

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OP refused financial help to an 18-year-old, citing lack of connection. Ex called OP an asshole, claiming he broke a promise. AITA?

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Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article.

Most of the Redditors think it is NTA case.

Seems about right.

You don’t owe financial support to a child you’ve seen only a few times since the divorce, especially without a strong connection.

It’s unfair to label you as an a**hole for setting boundaries.

NTA: Your decision not to financially support your ex’s child post-divorce is reasonable, given the lack of connection and understanding.

OP’s decision not to contribute financially is justified.

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