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In this situation, a middle-aged couple is facing a major decision to move to Europe due to a job offer. The husband has adult children who won’t be affected by the move, but the wife has an 18-year-old daughter from a previous marriage who has significant anxiety issues, particularly concerning COVID. The wife is hesitant to inform her daughter about the move, fearing her negative reaction. The husband suggests moving first and telling the daughter afterward, believing that it will be easier for her to accept once she sees her mother settled in the new country.
Meanwhile, the husband’s 17-year-old daughter, who overhears this conversation, criticizes him for not being upfront with the wife’s daughter and even calls him an A-hole for not telling her wife’s daughter that they will be moving to Europe. This led to a heated exchange between the two. Now OP wants to know whether he’s an A-hole or not. So keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end. Only then you would be able to tell who’s the A-hole here.
1. OP lives in Canada but he received a job offer in Europe and it’s a big deal for OP because he hasn’t been able to find a permanent job in his field for more than 10 years moreover, OP said he not taking this job is not an option for him.
2. OP recently got married to her wife and she will also be moving to Europe with him, they both have children from previous marriages. They won’t be going with them and as far as OP children they have always lived with their mother.
3. OP’s wife’s daughter is 18 years old and she has a massive anxiety disorder, now OP’s wife is worried about telling her that they want to move to Europe because she won’t be taking it well.
4. OP thinks that they should move and then tell her that they have already left as she is living on her own at college, and OP thinks she’s old enough to deal with it. OP’s wife is coming around the idea.
5. OP’s been staying at her ex-wife’s apartment due to his job situation, OP was talking to her wife on video call and they were talking about the move they were about to make and discussing her wife’s worries about how her daughter is gonna take it.
6. As soon as OP hung up the call his daughter came up to him and said what he was doing was extremely messed, up and they should tell her daughter that she was moving to Europe before it happens.
7. OP got mad at her daughter for eavesdropping and she replied that they live in an apartment and how loud he was speaking she was meant to listen
8. Now OP wants to know whether he’s an A-hole or not, let’s see what users have to say about it.
9. This really requires a heart of ice, OP is only thinking about himself.
10. YTA all the way across the ocean
11. Exactly, she needs to know it before it happens. Otherwise, their relationship will forever be destroyed.
12. YTA
13. A point well made by this user!
14. And by the way the wife should also use some of her sense
15. Exactly, he’s only thinking about himself that poor girl has massive anxiety and this will leave her broken.
16. Do you also think if his wife does this she’s also an A-hole?
17. Just imagine the pain it will leave on that poor girl
18. Totally agreed with this user!
From the users’ response above it is clear that OP is an A-hole if he does this. Let us know what you think about this post in the comment section below and don’t forget to like and share it with your friends and family. Stay tuned with Defused for more content. Thank You!
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