Guy Asks If He Is In The Wrong For Rescinding His Offer To Let His Girlfriend Stay In The Country

It is not easy to relocate to another country.

Not only must you adjust to the new culture, but you must also usually find work. Not to mention the fact that not everyone can speak the language right away when they move to a new country. However, for many people, this is the only way to achieve true freedom and live the life they desire. That is probably why so many people do everything in their power to stay in the country, even if it is difficult for them. After all, we all know how harsh immigration laws can be.

So, when this woman receives notice that she must leave, she is obviously in a difficult situation and is looking for a company that will sponsor her continued stay in the country. All of that changes when her boyfriend proposes to sponsor her in order for her to stay. This clearly alleviates the majority of her concerns, and she no longer becomes overly concerned about the situation. However, he does not keep his word and later withdraws the offer. I’m not saying he was obligated to support her, but what he did was pretty shady.

Scroll down to find out how it all turned out. And there will be some heavy topics discussed, so consider this your trigger warning.

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We start off with getting some background information on these two.

But she started going through a hard time when she was laid off.

It was unsurprisingly hard to find a job but he decided to help her stay.

So they went to a consultant and got everything in order.

But by the end, he backed out as he felt it was too much responsibility.

He continued to say that he wanted to be with her.

However, her view of the relationship had changed by this point.

He also explains what his responsibilities would have been if he had sponsored her.

It is clear that he is trying pretty hard to explain his side.

He felt like it was unfair to him and he didn’t want to go through with it.

But most people called him out anyway.

So he decided to give an update on how it was going.

To be fair, he did try to go see her again.

But she didn’t want that at all.

He really does seem afraid of any kind of responsibility.

He also decided to answer some of the more important questions.

He felt like he was forced into that situation in a way and that is why he did it in the first place.

He is also denying a lot of things that are clear in his first post.

However, the story doesn’t end there and I almost wished it had.

Right till the end, she did help him in any way she could.

He again talks about how it is unfair to him.

And then he makes it all about himself once again.

I’m honestly at a loss for words. I didn’t see this story going in this direction. And, while I wouldn’t say it’s his fault she’s gone, he may have had a hand in that decision as well. What’s so tragic about the whole thing is that he appears to have no remorse. I’m not saying he should blame himself, but he basically got away with it after he raised her hopes. He should never have offered in the first place if he didn’t want to do it.

People were aghast by how this story progressed.

Especially with how this guy acted throughout it all.

He truly does sound very selfish in his story.

What are your thoughts on the entire situation? Do you think he made the right decision? Or do you believe he should not have offered in the first place? What would you have done in a situation like this? Please let us know in the comments section below. Also, if you or someone you know is experiencing depression or darker thoughts, please reach out to those you know. After all, it is never too late to seek assistance.