Malaika
A wedding is a special day.
However, It should always be about the bride and groom, not their families. I don’t understand why families love to act like it’s their special day as well and that they deserve everything to go their way. Isn’t your family supposed to support you in your life decisions no matter what? After all, if there is a condition to their love then it’s not really love, is it? But it seems not many people like to live by this sentiment.
And they think they deserve forgiveness just because they are your loved ones. But just because they are your blood doesn’t mean they can force you to do anything that you don’t want to do. Although, I certainly know how hard it can be to say no to your family. As we all know, nobody likes to fight with their family. Although, when your sibling uses you like this, I think anyone would agree you have the right to be cautious of them.
Source: Reddit
You might wanna hear the full story before you form your opinions.
I suppose we didn’t even have to go far to get the reason behind this.
To be honest, Izzy didn’t have the right to be angry at this. She forfeited that long ago.
And just because she apologized doesn’t mean everything will magically fix itself.
But I really am happy for these two. They deserve happiness.
It is pretty clear that the mother favors Izzy and is trying to force her on you.
And I don’t think anyone would disagree with you on this.
Your mother is ashamed of you? Now, I’ve heard everything.
NTA.
Let me break it down: your SINGLE catfishing sister should be MOH and godmother because she is going to make you hers in her fictional wedding scenario. No.
Her bad actions led to something good for both of you, but they could have very easily turned out badly. Just because in this situation it has worked out, does not mean that she holds any responsibility for your happiness. It could very well have been that she was catfishing a crazy dude who went mental and started stalking you, chasing the fiction that your sister made up.
Tell them both that you appreciate that they have such big plans for your sister’s imaginary future which involve you, but that you’ll keep yourself in the present and choose people that you can trust and rely on for these important events. –pocketfullofuranium
I get that she apologized but this doesn’t seem like the behavior of someone who regrets their actions.
Exactly, nobody can force you to choose your sister even if you guys didn’t have this sort of history.
Exactly they can’t control and manipulate you like that. Your sister is crazy so it’s understandable why you don’t want her as maid of honor or godmother. It’s your wedding, not theirs so the decisions for it are yours to make.
NTA and please don’t cave. They are acting like she didn’t do anything wrong and gaslighting you. –Disneyfan6428
And yet she is put in a position where she has to justify it.
I actually love that advice and I’m definitely going to steal it for future use.
Yup have to think of who you want as a bridesmaid etc. Ask them And then call back your mum immediately. Thank her for getting you to think about who you wanted and tell her you have decided with XYZ person. No explanation, no waiting for her response just say it and then a ‘just thought you would want to be the first to know. Ok bye.’ and hang up.
Those are the facts. And the fact is your sister is not going to be those people in your life. No reason needed. –ohno_spaghetti_o
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