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In this story, a 35-year-old man and his ex-wife, who recently divorced with near full custody of their 3-year-old son, Henry, are navigating co-parenting dynamics. Despite the strained relationship between the ex-couple, their son appears happy and thriving when with his father, though he becomes noticeably sad and withdrawn when his parents are in the same room. The man suggests a day where he, his ex-wife, and possibly her new girlfriend focus on Henry, engaging in fun activities to reassure him that they are on good terms.
However, the ex-wife insists that her girlfriend’s 12-year-old son (stepson) should be included in this event, despite the man’s suggestion of organizing a separate gathering for all of them. The man is conflicted, as the stepson’s dominant personality tends to overshadow Henry, and the stepson shows a strong attachment to the man, potentially pushing Henry further into the background. The man wonders if he is wrong for wanting a day dedicated solely to the adults and his son, even though he has offered to arrange another event that includes the stepson.
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1. OP and her wife got divorced and they have a 3-year-old son OP was awarded near full custody and OP’s relationship with her ex is strained now OP has a new girlfriend and she has a 12-year-old son
2. OP says since the divorce Henry has been very happy and thriving with OP however when he sees his mother he’s not quite himself and when Henry OP and his mother are in the same room he becomes very sad and refuses to talk to anyone.
3. OP decided to come up with the idea that he and her ex and maybe her girlfriend would have a day where Henry would be the center of attention and they will do fun, and play games to show him that they are on good terms so he doesn’t have to be anxious
4. Ex replied that she is up for it but that her stepson would also be there OP responded that he completely understood her POV but she wants her stepson to feel like part of the family but OP’s goal was particular for Henry
5. OP said the stepson is a great kid but he takes center stage and Henry has to fade into the sidelines when he’s around that’s why OP wanted it to be particularly for Henry
6. Now OP wants to know whether he’s an A-hole or not, let’s find out what users have to say.
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7. NTA
8. What do you have to say about this?
9. This user is on point!
10. Exactly, it was a reasonable request and the ex should have considered doing it because it was for the good of Henry and it is Henry who is affected not the stepson.
11. It was reasonable as I said Henry is someone who is affected not the stepson
12. Piece of advice for OP!
13. It does sound like this and the ex should at least do it for the sake of Henry
14. She is trying not to help otherwise, she would have agreed with OP instantly without any conditions.
15. Maybe or maybe not, what are your views on this?
16. It’s not OP’s responsibility about her ex-son their responsibility should only be Henry’s!
17. The son’s well-being should be their top priority
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