Tayyaba Jabeen
The boundaries between kindness and exploitation can certainly feel blurry as you go through everyday life, making it a difficult issue to navigate. How much help should we provide to a friend in need, especially when the request has become a recurring demand is a common dilemma faced by many. Today, we’re going to be looking at the story of one 20-year-old woman grappling with this exact issue. In this AITA post on reddit, our OP (original poster) generously was offering rides to her 22-year-old friend whenever he was in need of them. However, his dependence grew rapidly, despite having a license but no truck – and also refusing to buy one. He basically depended on OP for a 40-50 mile ride for work everyday so much that OP has had to sacrifice her own time at work for it. Here’s the whole story:
Source: u/SwiftieMendes
#1) Is OP the AH in this situation with her friend? Let’s see.
#2) OP has been giving rides to a friend who refuses to buy his own truck. Sometimes the friend borrows his dad’s truck but if not, he and his girlfriend will spam OP for a ride.
#3) OP’s friend also refuses to get an Uber and also takes a 50-60 mile per day average for his ride. OP can’t always be available but doesn’t want him to get fired.
#4) OP thanks Reddit users for helping her to realize how toxic the situation was.
#5) OP’s friend doesn’t pay for gas, and his GF is unemployed. OP and his mutual friend is also non-confrontational.
Source: u/SwiftieMendes
OP’s actions were always kind, considerate and showed genuine care for her friend. However, the situation became unfair when the friend kept asking for rides even when it wasn’t convenient for her. OP’s friend didn’t even offer to chip in for the cost of gas, making it even more unfair. Imagine someone constantly mooching off of you and being a freeloader without even offering to bear any of the financial burden. That is quite inconsiderate and totally not cool. Read what some Reddit users are saying about the situation:
#6) Agreed, he needs to pay something at the very least.
Via moonvhxld
#7) The GF being involved to the point where she’s spamming her partner’s friends to get him a ride is actually insane.
Via t-rex_on_a_bike
#8) OP is definitely being used, this friend would not be extending the same kind of help to OP if she needed it.
Via Deucalion666
#9) That would definitely be a harsh but much needed reminder for OP’s friend.
#10) He’s an adult so he should be responsible for his own transportation for sure.
Via LouisV25
#11) OP’s friend should’ve considered his location limitations before taking the job.
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