In this story, OP is grappling with intense jealousy and resentment towards her boyfriend’s cousin, who is expecting a child. Despite being in a loving relationship and having a good rapport with her boyfriend’s family, OP’s negative feelings have started to overshadow her interactions with her cousin. These emotions are rooted in the OP’s desire to have a child but feeling that it’s not the right time due to her young age and various other circumstances. OP has even contemplated avoiding gatherings related to the cousin’s pregnancy and upcoming baby shower, fearing that her presence might inadvertently ruin the special moments for her.
OP is earnestly questioning whether she is in the wrong for harboring these emotions and for contemplating avoiding the cousin and her events. This inner turmoil creates friction and discomfort in her relationship, as she finds herself at odds with her desires, her boyfriend’s understanding attitude, and her commitment to maintaining healthy family relationships.
Now OP wants to know whether she’s an A-hole for avoiding a family member for being pregnant. So keep on scrolling down below and make sure to read it till the end only then you will be able to tell whether she’s an A-hole or not.
1. OP and her boyfriend have been together for 2 years, OP loves him and he loves her back moreover, OP’s boyfriend’s family adores her and she is often invited to family gatherings where she brings food and they all enjoy it.
2. OP says that her only problem is that one of her cousins became pregnant and when OP got to know about it she got mad and jealous Moreover, she says that she does not want to be near her until the baby is born.
3. OP said that she doesn’t want to be near her because she doesn’t want to ruin her happiness, and she says even if she interacts with her she would be rude to her unintentionally.
4. OP says that she’s too young to have a child but meanwhile, she desperately wants a baby. Moreover, OP said the fact that she’s having a baby makes her super mad and jealous.
5. Due to these feelings OP thinks that she is being a bad person and the fact that she has to avoid her for the rest of her life is adding more frustration to her feelings
6. OP said in a few years when she would be getting married to her boyfriend she doesn’t want his cousin to be there with a child
7. Now OP wants to know whether she’s an A-hole for having such feelings towards her
8. OP wanted to clarify a few things so she pointed out some points
9. OP says that she’s asking for advice on how to tackle this situation and she’s also looking for a therapist moreover, she said she doesn’t want her to know because she doesn’t wanna hurt her feelings.
10. OP said to users that if they would be kind in the comments that would be nice, and she also said that she needs some perspective from users besides saying go to therapy. Let’s see what users have to say!
11. Even though you don’t mean it still you shouldn’t wish bad things on others
12. A piece of advice for OP!
13. This user said OP is an A-hole and she also wanted to know why she dislikes her so profoundly
14. YTA
15. This user is speaking facts by the way, what do you think?
16. Well she does sound way immature for her age by the way
17. This user said OP needs therapy, not Reddit.
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