Parents should not interfere with sibling relationships.
I am well aware that most parents simply want their children to get along, but this does not always work out well for the siblings themselves and can cause problems in the parent-child relationship. And just because you are blood-related to someone does not mean you will be best friends. Many siblings don’t even like each other, and that’s just the way it is. After all, you can’t please everyone. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make sacrifices from time to time to keep the peace.
And it appears that this individual is unwilling to do so. The poster of this story, you see, is caught in the middle of a feud between her parents and her brother, who is getting married. And the main reason for that fight is that her brother chose his friend as the best man instead of her other brother. You’d think this wouldn’t be a big deal. After all, it is his decision who he will appoint to that position. However, this has caused a slew of problems to crop up between the parents and the brother.
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The title is long but it explains the situation well.
However, it is always better to read everything in detail to understand the situation.
It seems Matt is getting married and everyone in the family is quite excited.
OP was also appointed as a bridesmaid so it has been a busy time.
Everyone thought Sam would be the best man but that turned out to be false.
This has caused a huge rift between the family.
And now OP is stuck in the middle and doesn’t know what to do.
I can see why this would be a difficult situation to solve.
However, we do get a bit more information about the relationships at hand.
It seems the outstretched hand was too little too late.
I would feel hurt as well if I was Sam.
And it seems the parents don’t like their friend Bob either.
This is honestly quite a sticky situation.
I assumed there would be a simple answer. However, it has proven to be far more difficult than anticipated. While I believe it is Matt’s choice who his best man will be, he has not included his brother in any way in the wedding preparations. And since there doesn’t appear to be any bad blood between them, it’s no surprise that Sam is hurt by this. Not to mention that Matt served as best man at Sam’s wedding. And, while this does not imply that Matt owes Sam anything, I can understand why the decision would be upsetting to everyone.
Most people however agree that it is just miscommunication.
So it might be better for her to attend the wedding anyway.
However, there is no denying the fact that anyone would feel hurt in this position.
What are your thoughts on the subject? Do you believe Matt’s parents should respect his decision and not impose Sam on him? Or do you believe Matt is being far too impolite? What would you do if you were the sister caught in the middle of this conflict? Would you attend the wedding? Let us know in the comments, and don’t forget to share this story with your friends so they can participate with their own stories.