Friends ask for favors all the time.
It is a very common thing to do. You may ask for a ride home, a couple of bucks that you will return the next day but they will never ask for that money again, a birthday treat, a help regarding life advice, and so on and so forth. You can be your true self around your friend and they always help. The true ones always come through even if they have to go out of their way. But that doesn’t mean you use your friends and exploit their goodness. That would be terribly wrong. Instead, just be a good friend and watch them watch your friend return the favor on his/her own.
Our friends care a lot about our health and safety, more so than we actually realize, to be honest. Ever since my friend got to know we had to spend $25,000 on my cancer treatment, every time we go out to eat, he never lets me pay. He understands we took a major financial hit and he comes every other Saturday, picks me up, and we go out and much on some beef burgers that he always pays for. That’s a true friend and I am extremely grateful to have one. These are not the favors I asked for, this is just my friend’s love.
Earlier I mentioned favors, as a friend it is important you don’t go all out. It would be unfair if you ask for favors like wanting a business class plane ticket and then putting them under pressure. A good friend will never make out-of-the-way demands.
In today’s story, Reddit user u/Aquariusheartcake shared how their friend approached them for a favor to drive 16 hours with him to get his emotional support dog or in simple terms support dog. The Redditor didn’t want to help their unemployed friend and refused to help get the service dog. They also shared this story with the sacred community of AITA to know if they did the right thing by refusing or not.
Scroll down below to read the details of the story and decide for yourself if OP was wrong or not.
1. A friend refuses to help another friend. This will be interesting.
2. OP’s friend asked for huge favor which was to drive for 16 long hours to get the service dog with him.
3. The friend had no plans to pay for any expenses incurred on the total journey and when OP told them the distance was too long for him to drive, the friend didn’t like it.
4. I don’t think OP had any intentions to purposeful reject his friend.
5. It is not easy to spend $200 on a journey that has nothing to do with you.
6. And OP’s car wasn’t in the best shape for a 16-hour ride either.
I would say the OP was NTA. The whole thing was going in his friend’s favor until the guy said 16 hours is nothing and had no plans to contribute to the expenses. That is not how friendships work. You cannot call up your friend one day and ask for a $200 uber ride. If he was a good friend, he would’ve respected OP’s “no” and would’ve understood why he said no.
Here’s what the internet had to say about this:
7. The friend should contact the people who have his service dog to come up with another solution in terms of reachability.
8. 16 hours of driving means 48 hours of back pain and headache.
9. Nice suggestion. They could just use a train, they aren’t expensive either.
10. Proper adventurers.
11. He must learn to accept “No” for a response.
12. Helping your friend but getting drained in the process means something is wrong with the friendship.
13. Even if the friend had paid for everything, the drive still would’ve been a huge ask.
14. How about his friend drives and OP sleeps in the back for 16 hours?
15. Totally on him.
I really hope you guys enjoyed this one. What do you think, was OP right for not helping his friend get a service dog? Share your votes and thoughts in the comments section down below.
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