Mother Asks If She Wrong For Telling Stepmom She Can’t Use The Baby Name She Has Chosen

When a couple becomes parents, they want to prepare every detail of their child’s life, from the baby’s name to the baby’s room. They wish to announce their baby’s name in some distinctive style and do not want any other family member to steal the name. They should remember that no one owns the name, and everyone has the freedom to choose it for their children.

OP and her stepmother, Elle, were both pregnant with girls, with Elle two weeks ahead of her. OP wanted to name her kid Elizabeth after her late grandmother, who raised her from a young age. OP and her husband decided to keep it a secret for a while so they could surprise their relatives. They were astonished to find that Elle had announced her baby name, Elizabeth. OP was upset and begged Elle to modify the name because she had already decided on a name for her baby. Elle refused to modify it since she named her daughter after her best friend, who passed away last year. Read the complete story and leave your thoughts in the comments.

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1. OP asks if she was wrong to stop her stepmother from giving her baby a name that she had already chosen for her daughter.

2. OP and her stepmother Elle were both pregnant with girls at the same time, with Elle being 34 weeks pregnant and OP 32 weeks along.

3. OP wanted to name her first daughter Elizabeth after her grandmother’s name. OP and her husband wanted to keep their daughter’s name a surprise, so they never disclosed it in front of their family.

4. OP’s father and his wife announced their daughter’s name on social media, giving her name Elizabeth after Elle’s best friend’s name, who passed away last year.

5. OP messaged her father and his wife to change their daughter’s name, which OP had already decided for her daughter, and it would be confusing for both girls to have the same name.

6. OP’s dad accused OP of being selfish for assuming that the name she had decided for her daughter could not be taken from others. Elle also got upset with OP and demanded an apology.

7. OP explained that even though she had not announced her daughter’s full name, her father knew that she would use Elizabeth’s name for her daughter after her grandmother.

Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.

8. Yes, OP cannot be upset with her stepmother for choosing a name for their daughter that OP chose but did not reveal to her family.

9. Redditor believes that Elle does not need OP’s permission to give her daughter her best friend’s name.

10. Redditor claims that both OP and Elle had a valid motive for choosing the same name; hence, they could use it for both girls while giving them different nicknames.

11. Redditor explains a logical point.

12. Exactly! Numerous nicknames can be created from a single special name and assigned to two girls of the same age.

13. Redditor supports Elle’s choice of a name after her best friend, who died a year ago and criticizes OP for making a big deal out of it.

14. According to Redditor, OP did not publicly reveal her daughter’s name, thus she could not blame Elle for choosing it for her.

15. Indeed! names aren’t owned, they are given.

16. Redditor proposes that OP name her daughter Katherine Elizabeth and give her the nickname Kat.

17. Redditor reminds OP that she does not own the name and may use different Nicknames for both girls.

18. Yes, the name means as much to Elle as her, and OP should apologize.

19. According to Redditor, OP’s daughter will meet hundreds of Elizabeths during her life; this is the cost of choosing a common name.

20. Redditor believes that Elle has a full right to name her daughter what she wants, and they both can choose the same name with different nicknames.

Elizabeth is not a particularly distinctive name, and hundreds of mothers can choose it for their newborns. OP’s daughter will be surrounded by many Elizabeth’s in her life and will become accustomed to it. Giving both females nicknames will fix this issue, as OP was concerned about the misunderstanding that might arise since they would stay close to each other. It was not Elle’s fault to choose a similar name because OP kept it a secret and wanted it a surprise for the family. To resolve their conflict, OP should apologize to her father for her conduct. What are your thoughts on OP’s behavior? Leave your thoughts below, and stay tuned to Defused for more tales.