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Co-parenting can get messy, especially when unexpected players join the game. This was the situation for OP trying to coordinate summer plans for their daughter, which turned into a three-way dance involving not just the ex-husband but also his girlfriend and, surprisingly, the ex-mother-in-law.
With summer looming, OP thought it wise to sort out vacation plans in advance. But things turned unexpectedly when her ex responded with a puzzling stance. He insisted on consulting not only his girlfriend but also his mother to figure out the dates that would work for everyone.
OP, understandably confused, tried to make sense of it all. She pointed out that while she could consider his girlfriend’s schedule, his mother’s plans shouldn’t be part of the discussion. After all, the mother wasn’t a co-parent or a player in their relationship. Despite OP’s efforts to simplify things, her ex-husband remained adamant, eventually hanging up, leaving OP stuck in the middle of this tangled mess of scheduling and power dynamics.
So keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end otherwise, you won’t be able to connect to the story.
1. Here’s an update to the post
2. Here’s how their conversation regarding divorce happened
3. OP said she’s not considering Alexandria’s schedule while she’s planning vacation time
4. OP said it doesn’t matter what her mother has scheduled for her and he’s an adult and has a daughter whom he had to think of first
5. But he said OP doesn’t understand and OP asked whether Alexandria would be in this equation
6. OP said she is not DD’s parent and he is allowing her to act like she is and she has no power over her as OP is supposed to be co-parenting with him not his mother
7. OP said she’s the one who is co-parenting with Alexandria but he has to consult his mother every time
8. He’s an adult and he needs to react like one
9. People like that are always dependent on others and they have no opinion of their own thus it creates a mess
10. First things first
11. That person needs to man up and there’s no way out other than being a man
12. This is what OP responded to the user above
13. People were concerned about the girlfriend because of his childish and dependent behavior
14. What are your thoughts on this?
Co-parenting becomes a mess when someone else interferes in the parenting and it becomes a mess because nobody else can know their children better than the parents and it’s solely their responsibility to look after the children that’s what OP’s ex-husband lacks and the problem arises.
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