Arsalan Sajid
Parents always worry about what their kids will do for a living and do everything in their power to help them achieve professional success. They are so eager for their first interview that they fail to realize it is actually their children’s interview, which ultimately fails as a result of their interference. Children need to be allowed to make their own decisions since it gives them more confidence in their ability to get hired in prestigious careers.
OP was a hiring manager in a tech company and was narrating the story of a 19-year-old boy whom OP had to take a virtual interview over Zoom during lockdown. As the interview began, the guy’s mother came in and started giving the answers on behalf of her son. OP felt it strange and asked her politely to let her son answer for himself, but she kept interfering in between. The OP had to cut short the interview since they wanted an independent person for the post and rejected the guy because of his mother’s meddling. His mother did not leave OP at peace after hearing about his rejection; hence, OP had to tell her the truth: it was her fault that her son could not be selected for the job. Read the entire story to learn about the mother’s reaction and share your thoughts in the comment section down below.
Source: Reddit
1. OP wonders if it was fair to inform the college student’s mother that her meddling during his interview cost him the job.
2. OP was a hiring manager at a software company who had to do a virtual interview with a 19-year-old male who was applying for a summer internship.
3. As the interview began, his mother entered and attempted to answer the questions on behalf of her son, which was against the rules of the hiring guidelines.
4. Despite OP’s appeal to allow her son to speak for himself, the mother continued to interfere, forcing OP to cut short the interview.
5. OP thought their task was over until an email was received from a woman inquiring about her son’s application and the outcome of the interview he had conducted with OP.
6. At the age of 15, OP experienced a similar situation when OP’s mother meddled with the work for a day camp. OP felt bad for the unlucky boy, whose mother had damaged his chances of getting a job.
7. OP apologized to the woman for being unable to share the information with anyone other than the applicant and asked the HR department to send the rejection email to him.
8. OP got a call from his mother who demanded answers for rejecting her son, but OP explained that they would only answer her son if he asked about his performance.
9. OP informed the mother that her intervention during the interview prevented her son from being considered for the job because it required an independent, self-motivated individual who could stand up for himself.
10. According to OP, every hiring manager would reject the candidate if someone else responded on their behalf because every employer searched for people who could demonstrate their attributes on their own.
11. The boy’s mother became enraged by OP’s response and began berating him over the phone until OP was compelled to hang up. OP wondered if it was wrong to tell his mother the truth.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
12. Redditor supports OP to tell his mother directly her fault since her son could not explain to her that she was the reason for his rejection from the job.
13. Yes, it is tough to avoid parental meddling while interviewing online.
14. Redditor never allows parents in undergraduate orientation to be in the meeting of the students and the adviser.
15. Redditor has experienced similar situations while advising undergraduates online to take specific courses.
16. Yes, children have to face the consequences because of their parents’ attitude.
17. Redditor shares a similar experience about not hiring a girl because of her mother’s resilience.
18. Redditor suggests that OP assist these types of students in breaking free from their parents’ dependence.
19. According to Redditor, the guy’s mother did it on purpose to prevent her son from getting the job and leaving her.
20. Redditor suggests that the boy should know that he could not get the job because of his mother’s interference and would be careful next time.
The boy was not mature enough to realize the impact of his mother interfering with his interview; otherwise, he would ensure that she was not present throughout it. These experiences would help him prepare for future interviews away from his parents. Parents should also be aware that interfering with their children’s careers will cause complications for them. They should assist their children in making independent decisions in order to boost their confidence in getting accepted by hiring managers. What do you think about it? Please leave your thoughts in the comments section, and stay tuned to Defused for more tales.
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